[susan4988]

Hello everyone! It's been a while since I have logged on. Life has been so crazy the last 2-3 months. My husband and I started the infertility road. I have had a HSG that luckily indicated everything was ok. We next have to get a S/A done for him. He is not all that excited about doing it. It has been like pulling teeth to get him to do it. The cup is still sitting the the dresser! Anyone got some advise on how to get him to see this is important and needs to be done! Because of his reluctance, we are in a holding pattern.

Then on top of that, my step-son and his girlfriend just had a baby boy on Dec. 3. He is wonderful. 8lbs 15 oz and 21". He's a big boy. It was so hard to sit at the hospital for 20+ hours while she was in labor. I couldn't help but wonder if that was ever going to be me. Considering my situation of not being able to get pregnant at this point I feel I have dealt rather well.

And just yesterday, it was confirmed that my step-daughter is about 10 weeks pregnant. Says she is due July 16. And worst of all she doesn't want the baby. She has asked her Dad and I if we would like to have baby. I just don't know what to think. To complicated the issue even further, she has been in denial and yesterday was her first pre-natal visit to the dr. Because she has been in denial and doesn't want the baby she hasn't been "behaving" the way a pregnant woman should. She has continued to drink a lot. Which makes me wonder, if my husband and I do take the baby to raise, it will we have to deal with a child with fetal alcohol syndrom? Isn't unreasonable for me to say that I don't want a child with issues if I can prevent it? Isn't unreasonable for me to say I want my own child to raise and not one that given to me by my step-daughter because she was irresponsible? My husband isn't really all that sure he want's the child either, although he is more than willing to have our own.

I just am so frustrated and really don't have anyplace to vent my true feelings other than here. So, I hope you don't all mind. Thanks for listening!

[AllyBourbeau]

I am SOO sorry! This is quite the situation! I don't think you're being unreasonable at all. I think you are handling things very well. I wish I had some advice for you but this is such a difficult situation! I wish you the best!