[historyteach]

hey ladies i just thought that it would be a good idea to start a new thread for those of us that have experienced a loss recently. i don't mean to take away from the wonderful support on the other thread but i know that there are days i find it difficult to get happy for those who are pregnant and already having their babies. i know that our time will come but i thought it would be great if we were capable of supporting one another during this difficult time.

blessings to all

[ekburke]

Jamie,

Thank you for setting up this thread. I think it is a great idea for us to RALLY for one another. It is enormously helpful for me to know that I have all of you to lean on! I look forward to healing, in time, with all of you!

Lotsa love,

Erin

[missywojo]

Jamie, Count me in. I have been avoiding the boards because I don't know where to post and I can only read the threads for so long before I tear up.

Our story is that first u/s in at 6weeks, very slow hb and was very hard to find. U/s at 7 weeks, even slower hb. at 8 weeks it was over. We had DC on 7/3 so we could have the genetic testing. Ended up being extra chromosome 16 (trisomy) which causes slow hb and slow/no growth.

I am doing okay with not crying except for when certain things hit me. Like this morning, I made banana bread before going to work with some old left over bananas. I pulled it out of the oven and started to wonder if I would ever get to make banana bread for my kids. Of course it was a good thing I didn't have my mascara on yet because I was water works after that. But then other days, I hardly think about it.

Thanks for starting this thread.

[chuchu]

Thanks Jaime!!

Hi Erin and Missywojo!!

I just came back from RE. I had been worried because I have been in lots of pain. She says that everything looks fine (had an u/s). She said that everybody is different and that my perception of pain is big because "everything I invested in this pregnancy" (so VERY true!). She said to take 600 mg Motrin every 6 hours and have a massage. Also, to increase my Estrace from 2 to 3 so my uterus doesn't get scared.

So, this is good news. I feel relieved. I was afraid something was not going well.

Missywojo, our time will come and you will bake lots of delicious stuff. I am still waiting for the genetic results. How long did it take? Did they give you an explanation? My RE said mine was because a trisomy and I dying to know more about this.


How are you doing girls? Got any plans for the weekend?

I have to work today and tomorrow, but nada for Sunday. Maybe will go to see Mamma Mia.

[missywojo]

Claudia, I hope you feel better with the motrin. I got my genetic results in a little over 2 weeks. I googled chromosome 16 and trisomy and lots of info came up. RE said it is more common in woman over 35.

Tuesday is our 8th wedding anniversary. We are celebrating tomorrow by going to see a play and fancy dinner. No gifts since dinner will be expensive enough. Plus we just signed off on two used vehicles this week and ordered a lap top!!!

[marilynnj]

Can I join you? I found out on 7/28 that my little bean was not developing. There was no fetal pole to be found. I was 8w1d then but measuring 6w4d. I was instructed to stop PIO support and let nature take it's course. I am still waiting for nature to do it horrible thing and I'm terrified. We will not have any genetic testing done as this was our last ivf cycle.

Marilyn
(I have not had the energy to create a signature yet)

[ekburke]

Marilynnj,

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. This is a great place to be with those who understand and have been in your shoes.


Take care,

Erin

[missywojo]

Marilyn, I am really sorry for what you are going through. I know it's hard.

[ekburke]

Okay Ladies,

I am having a rough moment. I have been having headaches since my D&C...not every day, but enough that it is beginning to bother me. My RE seems to think it is the crashing hormones. To add to this...get ready TMI...I think I got a hemmoroid from my D&C...it hurts. Why am I being punished. My RE laughed at me...I know I deserved it, but she just said to keep an eye and to let her know if it gets worse...how am I supposed to keep an eye back there!

Anyway...how is everyone holding up. I have my next B/W on Tuesday so lets pray it crashes to ZERO!

Best Wishes,

Erin

[Highopes]

Hi everyone - I'm so glad Jamie started this thread as I understand where everyone is coming from. I will be going to my Dr. on Thurs where he'll hopefully tell me the genetic results from my d & c. The hardest thing for me was going for my 1st u/s at 6 1/2 weeks and the technician was very quiet, not saying a word! My gut feeling was telling me this was not a good sign. I was right!! The doctor met with my dh & me and told us that there was no heartbeat & no fetal pole & it also appeared that I had a small clot. So, they gave me a choice of waiting to see if I m/c naturally in the next week or to have to have a d & c. I was absolutely heartbroken. My first pregnancy (after ttc for 2yrs) resulting in a m/c. The doctor also said that the good thing is that my body is saying that I am capable of getting pregnant. I just didn't feel very hopeful at that time.

missywojo & marilynnj- I understand where you are at right now. In June I felt exactly the same. It has now been 5 weeks & I still at times feel heartbroken and cry, but I do feel more hopeful now, especially reading stories on here about women having m/c and then going on to have healthy pregnancies.

My dh & I did not tell anyone we were pregnant so it was really hard for me as I really had no one to talk to about this as well. The women on this board really helped me & I am so thankful for finding this site.

Sherry

[pray2bmom]

Good afternoon girls. May I join you? We lost our son last October at 22 weeks due to an incompentant cervix. We had to bury him and that was the worst thing that I have ever done. It is so hard to bury your own child. I did IVF again in May and got pregnant but lost it at 7 weeks. It is so hard to keep going but I am determined. My doctor has high hopes for me. I hope he is right. Some days are harder than others. Here is a group hug for everyone!

[chuchu]

Marilyn, Sherry and Nicole, welcome!!! I am glad we are more so the support will be bigger and tighter. We all share this experience, that for me has been the hardest in my entire life.


I am having such a rough afternoon. I am feeling so sad today. DH wanted to go out (he even went to pick me up from work with a change of outfit for me) but I just can't. I only want to be at home. I don't feel like being with other people having fun around me.

I hope I can get better soon because I am truly not like this. Maybe the hormones are still playing with my mind.

Erin, I have a headache right now also. My first in many weeks. Are you taking something for the pain?

I hope everybody is doing everyday better.

[Sanda]

Hi. I have been lurking for quite awhile and wanted to share my recent loss. At my first U/S at 7weeks, my MD was able to find a small sac but no fetal pole or heartbeat. He said it was not a viable pregnancy. I knew something was wrong because ever since my first beta, I had brown spotting (which can be normal for some people). He said I should stop my PIO and delestrogen shots and would miscarry on my own. He was right, 3 days later I miscarried. For a week I cried and have been so sad. At least I have frozen embryos to try again. I know exactly what you gals are going through. I wish everyone babydust for the future.

Sanda

[ekburke]

Hi Ladies,

I would like to say welcome to all the new people...it is so good to have you all for guidance and support.

I have a question...what did your RE's say about BDing after a D&C. I cannot find my paper that I got when discharged and on the internet some people say 6 weeks!

How is everyone holding up? I did read somewhere that women get pregant on their own after a D&C...its got to be a hormone thing. I know even women with MF issues are getting preggers on their own...pretty interesting!

Hope eveyone is having a relaxing weekend. I had a few drinks last night for the first time and I finally slept like a normal human being. HOORAY for small favors.

Erin

[chuchu]

Sanda, I would also like to welcome you!!

Erin, I am glad you had some drinks yesterday!! I had some wine on Friday and felt sooo goood!!

About BD: they said to wait 2 weeks after D&C.

About TTC: I have read online you have to wait 2 or 3 cycles, but I haven't confirmed that information with RE or with this wonderful forum.