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I was wondering if any one else has this issue. My best friends (hubby and wife are DH's and my best friends) do not deal well with our losses. We got pregnant the day that their only child was born. They were thrilled for us and supported us to the end. But after we lost the baby they changed a lot. I did not deal with it well and she was the 2nd person I called my hubby who was out of town was the first call. She actually said well you can try again. I was in tears and that was her reaction. Then as we moved on into this roller coaster of losses and tests they really changed. Instead of supporting me they both kept quiet. I had to really drag it out of them, and they finally told me after the second loss that I needed to "get help". I needed to not try anymore until I talked to someone professionally. I was not able to let it go. Then when we decided to look into adoption they asked that we not put them down as a referance because they could not honestly tell the social worker that we were ready for a child!!!! After the 3rd loss we just did not talk to them about it and when we were pregnant for the 4th time the only reason we even let them know is we went to the Houston live stock show and rodeo and I would not have a drink during or after it with them and they were wondering why. Now she is wonderful about all other things and I personally love her son like he is my own.
My question long and drawn out is does anyone else have friends who are like that? I am wondering if she is pulling away to make me feel better or if she just does not want us to have a child for her own selfish reasons. She loves to be the center of attention and the fact that they are the only one in our group that has a little one and I think she feels that we may not love him as much if we have our own or will not be able to spend as much time out and having fun if we have a little one. I am so confussed and hurt this has been going on for over 2 years now. I need help!!