[Angelwithhope]

I literally LOL-ed. Even if you don't say these things to her face, it feels good to get it out I'm sure!!

[jencat215]

Originally Posted by Shellyhume

Bottom line, Shawna, I really think she's just mad that I'll be a "real teacher" and she's just a babysitter.

Shazaam, that felt good.

Love this comment!!! What a real witch!!! I can't believe they let her continue to be that that school with all those children! I am glad you are getting to go back to school. You will make a wonderful teacher

So tonight we are having a 'family night', i.e. getting our cats doped up on catnip and laughing at the crazy things they are doing. Right now they are in the wiped out stage, so DH is cranking tunes and I stole away to type this...

[Shellyhume]

Alright... I need some help...

She responded with "even better".

Do I tell her to grow up and get over it or do I even bother responding? Haha... what's the best move? C'mon chess players out there... I need to destroy her queen.

[sunny72]

Shelly, do you have to work with this woman as in actually see her each day until you leave? if so..... awkward.

I honestly would just give her the cold shoulder. I can't be bothered with people like her although they do make my blood boil.

[jencat215]

Now I know I would love to tell her to go blow it out her ..., it is probably not a good idea if you have to see her again, even if for 13 more days. All we can really do is feel sorry for that poor kid that she is going to raise.

I think doing what Heidi suggested, the cold shoulder, would be the best reaction and will probably get to her the most cause it sounds like she is an attention hog. If you ignore her it will probably piss her off. Just be wary of her reaction toward the kids while you are still there and if she is still horrible to them, all you can do is keep reporting it- for their safety and for your own piece of mind. Honestly, how do they let people like this be around kids!!!

[Angelwithhope]

Definatley the cold shoulder sounds best in this case, though I'd have a hard time doing it myself as well. I can't believe people like THAT get to reproduce, while we all sit here and suffer!

[Shellyhume]

I heart you all... muah!

Well, if she obeyed the rules, I wouldn't have to see her at all except perhaps in the hallway... as it is, she leaves her classroom out of ratio (her co-teacher can only have 10 children at a time... if there are any more than that, she needs a second teacher... state laws.) so she can roam through all the other classrooms like she freakin owns the place... and I know that she will be frequenting whatever room I am in, just to try to get under my skin... can't say it won't work... but I'll try the cold shoulder thing.

And yeah... in the event that they need an extra teacher in that room, it'll be me. 80(

So... I guess I'll just stick out my chin, and grin... and continue to saaaaaaay... haha... alright... 12 more days... I can hold out 12 more days...

Matthew 5:38,39 Ye have heard that it hath been said, An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth: But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also.

[Angelwithhope]

Being OVERLY nice to her, could get her goat as well!! Believe me it works!! My SIL Hates me and I know when I'm overly nice to her, it just eats her insides! LOL

[sunny72]

Shelly at least you can see the light at the end of the tunnel, it would be far worse if you weren't leaving soon!

I'm starting to feel like Alana was saying last week -afraid to do this again. After my appt with my RE it's becoming more real. I still haven't had the all clear yet, I guess that'll come if the sono-hystero-something I'm having next week goes okay. I tried to tell DH, but he just said "think positive baby, think positive". If only it were that simple. Unfortunately, last time thinking positive got me rubbing my belly, bringing out the maternity clothes and DD's newborn clothes in excitement. Some may say that was premature, but that's the only way I know how to positive think I guess. It's not even that I was convinced it was going to work out, but I was trying to be hopeful. Next time, I don't know how to approach it. Hope for the best, expect the worst?? Doesn't sound comforting.

[JustPeachy]

Sorry I was gone at a wedding and just trying to catch up with all the stories...
Shellyhume- I vote for either ignoring the evil co-worker or being over the top friendly. I did that with my ex's fiance (we were in a wedding together) and boy did it annoy the sh*t out of her having to respond back so as not to look rude. Just keep thinking about karma. You're doing the right thing protecting those kids.

Alana & Heidi - I know you both must be having lots of mixed emotions this week. I'm thinking of both of you. These first steps will be the hardest by far. But, we're all here for you. Just keeping talking to us girls about it rather than internalizing everything.

Angelwithhope- I am sorry for all the trouble with your FIL. I know family dramas don't help the situation right now.

Thanks for all the pad check stories! You girls were making me laugh. Well, we went to the HUGE 400+ person wedding this weekend. Of course, since I'm having a complicated pregnancy, I got to hear everyone's horror stories. It was good and bad. Definitely a reality check about getting things ready sooner rather than later and buying some premie clothes just in case. I've met several women this week that all delivered around the 32 week marker b/c of this full placenta previa. All the babies were fine in the long run just a rough third trimester. So, my Mom took DH to the side and gave him a big lecture about me staying off my feet.

[jencat215]

Hey Girls-

Peachy is holding out on us and posted a very cute photo of her tummy under January due date buddies. Go check it out.

Rachel-glad you made it through the wedding. Wow...400 people! I am not sure I even know that many people! In fact, I know I don't!!!

Heidi- you will feel so much better after this test. DH and I were both a bit nuts before we had my HSG done (thank God it was done before Boston trip or we would have been anxious the entire trip). Getting it done and knowing the results were good made us relax so much and get excited for the next go around. Sure, I still think "what if I have another ectopic" and that frightens me...I don't want to go through that again. But I keep thinking positively that this next time will be successful. And this week I should get AF so hopefully I will be on target to try again!!!

[Shellyhume]

Heidi and Alana... I did the "do I really want to go through this again" internal battle... after my first ectopic... I told DH that I would never do it again. We discussed it and agreed that in six months we would make our decision... when we weren't so close to the incident anymore and we had some clarity. Well, when the time came, I rationalized... I survived the first time. Mentally, emotionally... survived... my spritituality suffered a bit... but even that, I knew could be overcome. Then, when we got pregnant this time, I was "thinking positively" by telling my family and friends right away. Well, there's a reason they say to wait until you're at least half way into your second trimester to start getting into the pregnancy... bunk like this happens to screw with your universe...

So here I am... I have to make this decision. The last two, I swore, were supposed to kill me, if not mortally, than at the very least, emotionally. I'm blue it didn't work out, but I'm not dead inside. I survived. And I know, provided I keep reminding myself that He wouldn't let me go through anything I couldn't handle, that I could survive it again... and again... and again... just for the chance to have that baby in my arms.

Keep your chins up, darlings... don't let dissappointment discourage you but rather let it strengthen you. The path is longer, rockier, narrower, and steeper... but that just means the reward will be that much greater.

[Angelwithhope]

On the whole trying again discussion:

I also vowed to my DH that I would never go through it again when we experienced our first loss. It hurt me so much physically and emotionally. It killed relationships with people I had had for twenty years, it hurt the relationship I had with my family....I knew at that time that I wanted to die. I have often said I should have died with Bean (our first pregnancy) then the healing began. Both my RE and OB GYN refused to give me meds,saying that i needed to take the three months off to heal emotionaly, because this loss is just like losing a living breathing child. So DH and I did what we could, we loved, we tryed to laugh, and we tryed to heal....almost 8 months later I'm still not completely healed and when I got pregnant the second time, I was pretty numb to the fact that i was even pregnant. Of course we ended up having our second miscarriage then and I'm afraid to try again...but it's normal and I'd say almost healthy to feel this way. I mean if we weren't scared, we'd be a little on the wrong path IMO. I think we just have to try to stay positive but be realistic. Yes because we've had one loss it puts us at a higher risk for a second, but most first time pregnancy do end in miscarriage. (a very dissapointing thing I know!)

Anyways, what I'm trying to say is that, if a person needs to, they shouldn't ever be afraid to say, not this month I'm not ready yet!!!

I keep you all in my thoughts and pray (though I don't pray often) that you all do what's right for yourselves and know that we are here to you along always!

[sunny72]

I meant to add that I remembered to ask my RE about whether were had been considered part of the "successful pregnancy achieved" group or the other. He had initially said we had about a 60/40 chance of it working. He tells me now though that we were part of the 60% group, but within that statistic there was a 5% chance of miscarriage. I guess my mind glossed over that fact if he had mentioned it prior.

We have to decide for our FET whether to thaw all the embabies at once based on the fact that only 2 to 3 out of 5 would survive typically, or, thaw a couple at a time and if the initial ones survive we have some left for future/storage. The first scenario I am thinking there's a risk of them destroying or rejecting the lesser quality embaby if 3 or 4 or 5 survive as they only transfer 2 max at this place. Then if it works, we would have more in storage that we would be funding or need to try again sometime??. I have an issue about outright destroying embryos, but I know it's a major grey area. So many different circumstances. Of course I can't even decide what to have for dinner, so how am I supposed to decide something this important??? I think I will ask the larger group what they have done with FET. I need some advice. Feel free to tell me what you would do. Of course being pessimistic, I am just hoping one will at least survive.

[designdiva32]

Firstly Rachael, I am going to sneak over to the due dates group and check out your baby bump. I just love those pics...you girls will have to let us know when you do these so we can have a nosey. I'm a big lurker of your thread as you probably already know!

Shelly, Shawna, thank-you for all your wise words about trying again. I am going in for my day 8 ultrasound tomorrow and am still a little distanced from it all. There are days I actually forget I'm doing an IUI completely. I guess its my minds way of dealing with this...to keep it unemotional or something. I had thought about not trying at all this month, but DH really wanted us to keep going as neither of us (especially him!) is getting any younger. So I do have to respect his decision also, its both of us in this I guess. Plus, I also remembered I have you fantastic girls to help me through it so I know I can do this with all of you by my side.

Heidi, thats a tough one with the frozen embryos. I personally think I would thaw all of them as like you actually choosing to destroy them because I couldn't afford to keep them frozen would be hard to do. I'm not someone who believes they are actually babies though either...I'm more of an acorn/tree believer and I also think stem cell research etc is good and so if that choice were available I'd probably pick that one. However I also understand everyone has their own feelings and beliefs that need to be respected on this very grey area so its quite a personal choice. What does your DH think? Definately ask the other FET girls their views, it might help to narrow it down.

Jen, I LMAO about your catnip addicted cats. I've not tried that before, however I'm now thinking it might be a fun thing to give to my crazy moggie. He's nuts as it is...I'm wondering what he'll be like with catnip in him. Too funny! Oh, and I love the pic of you and your DH, I will try to update mine to another one we took of me. Its a bit cheesy really (it looks like I'm doing the pose thing...ugh) but I promised so I'll do it...just don't laugh! lol