[sunny72]

Josee, sorry what a bummer. I hate it when things get cancelled last minute. I feel bad for your wee niece, being sick like that is just plain yucky.

[JustPeachy]

Josee - Thanks for making me smile! What a great book title. None of the parenting books deal with anything other than the change to your sex life. I'm not sure if dh is jealous of Aiden. We've still been doing date night once a week which is pretty good considering he's only off twice a week at night. I'm so sad for your evening with the nieces. Maybe you can still do a playdate with them at your sister's house tomorrow and bring all the easter supplies?

Shawna - Great to hear from you!! Rest up over there!

Jen - I've had bleeding from "there" before. It usually goes away on the next trip to the bathroom. If it's not gone by the morning, I would have it checked. Since there's no tmi here, were you constipated earlier? I know the progesterone has that effect on a lot of people.

Ronni - Any friendliness in your house today?

I think the worst of the weather is gone from the city now. There was something like 8 tornadoes today alone in and around the city. They are saying it will be the busiest tornado day ever in the city. We are fine at my house. Some scary warnings and I had bags packed to take Aiden to the basement for a while. Never had to think of anyone other than myself and the dog before. I'll have to check on Laurie tomorrow b/c there were bad storms south of the city near her. Uh oh. Aiden just woke up again. He hasn't napped for longer than 30 mins today Very weird.

[Shellyhume]

I thought about doling out advice... but maybe I'm not the one to be giving it...

[Shellyhume]

On THAT note... I don't know what to do with my mother... she is driving me crazy. She is putting her manipulativeness to the test and making me feel like crap... and I don't know how to deal with her. I feel like she doesn't want to bother with me... why does she need to see and spend time with me... why does she need to talk to me... she's got my sister. Everything I go through is 8 weeks after my sister went through it so my baby kicking for the first time was no big deal... my symptoms and complaints are no big deal... my belly growing to epic proportions is no big deal... and then when she DOES decide to come down from Maine to spend some QT with me (after she called earlier in the week to try to get out of it), she can't come down without my sister... and of course my sister can't come down without her "husband"... so now my QT with my mother has turned out to be seeing my mom at church this morning and for Sabbath dinner, while my sister walks all over the place beaming from ear to ear, not a care in the world, never forgetting to mention that she lives in a mansion (but leaving out the part that she is actually living at her in-law's mansion), and thrusting her big belly in my face.

Ugh... I'm still so bitter. I just want my mother to, for ONCE, make me a priority over all else. I am pregnant, for crying out loud, and I need my mother... I need her to get excited over me and want to be around me... and she can't go anywhere without my sister... and whenever my sister is around, I can't help but get very quiet and reserved and I cover my belly and I'm almost embarrassed to talk about being pregnant... and it's sick. Why am I so messed up?

[Angelwithhope]

I'm back, sitting up with much more ease and some of my bruising has gone down. So that's good news.

Rach-I'm sorry your dh is being a bad guy to you. I know my DH confessed to me about two years ago that he didn't want any kids after all, no animals...because he felt jealous that they would take all my attention from him. I don't know what changed him but he turned around. Maybe he's just jealous? Just try to keep talking Hun. Communication is key. My parents live by this rule. We do too. Good luck!

Josee- Sucks that your niece is sick. I hope she is better soon!!!

Oh and yes, after my two near death experiences, the first being hooked up to all those monitors and them telling me everything was so far off....and them checking on me every two minutes. And then my experience in the recovery room and not being able to breath, I called my mom last night. They might really suck when it comes to IF but they're still my parents. It was a good thing. Your life flashes before your eyes and you realize whats wrong in your life I think. My near death experience has changed me.

Jen- I say get into the Er hun, that kind of bleeding is not really smething to put off. Don't be like the old stupid me, who didn't go.

Kelly- Thinking of you Hun!!!

Man it's not really our month is it around here?! It's going to get better I promise! As long as we have our health, our happiness, our DHs, our children...both here on earth and in Heaven, we have enough to keep us going.

[MamaSoon]

Wow Shawna. I can see how impacted you are by this past week. How are you feeling physically if you don't mind me asking. Will you see your OB next week?!
I am glad you are setting aside some of your differences to reaching out to your family. I hope they can meet you half way.

Shelly, I am really sorry you don't feel that your mom wants/needs to be with YOU as you are, in this glorious state of pregnancy, and to experience her daughter experiencing something so amazing. She is missing out on something special. Is she too scared to travel solo or just not conscious that you would prefer to spend time alone with her? Doesn't sound warm. :-(

Since my SIL popped out three gorgeous babies, I assume my mom won't be super excited. not to mention she's always had a problem expressing joy for me. she just had a crap mom that wasn't there for her and she doesn't know how to be that way with me. she's challenged in that way. i don't take it personally anymore but i'll bet when I get pregnant I'll be more vulnerable again.

I am so grateful to have you girls to share with. You are all so sweet, supportive, and loving.

[MamaSoon]

Hey Heidi. I see you down there. Where are you at in your plan? I saw you were PMSing. What comes next?

Hi Martie and Devan!

[Shellyhume]

Oh, my mom isn't scared of anything... she actually WAITS to travel in the middle of a blizzard in the middle of the night... more exciting that way...

Our personalities clash, big time... as we're both uber sensitive... only she is constantly reminding me how sensitive I am amidst her incredible insensitivity, and gets mad if I don't sit back and take it.

[Shellyhume]

Shawna - I'm so glad to hear you got to keep your tube... and I'm so sorry that you had to go through this... seems like a d*mned trend around here with those d*mned IUIs... ugh. But again, so glad to learn they could fix your tube... that's a big deal in my book.

[Angelwithhope]

Physically I'm a little sore. Keeping an eye open on my bleeding vaginally. I nkow that I have to get rid of my plump lining but I have to be careful. But physically, really just a little sore and somewhat weak. I could go for a sleep again, I just woke up about a half hour ago. I'm finally able to sleep on the opposite side of my incisions, so that''s nice not to have to sleep on my back, that was hurting too much. Unfortunately my incisions are on the right side, the side I like to sleep on. Murphy's law. LOL.

Shelly- I'm sorry you feel as though your mom isn't there for you. Do you have a close enough relationship that you could tell her how youre feeling!? I hope it gets better soon Hun!

[Angelwithhope]

Shelly= I told DH that was our first and LAST IUI. I can't do another. I'm sure that I'm going to have to have an HSG done again now that I had the ectopic.

Wanna hear the sucky part, the embryo was right at the end of my tube! Just a little further and it would have probably been a healthy pregnancy in my uterus. Probably why I managed to keep my tube even though it ruptured and I bled out. It's okay though. He said all he had to do was to reach in, grasp it and take it out. So that is good news I suppose/

[mmikowski]

Hello everyone, glad to here all is ok with you Racheal you were the first one I thought of when I heard about the tornatos. I am sorry your DH is being a butthead!

Shelly sorry your mom is not being supportive of you, it really sucks that your sister is stealing all the fun out of your time to be pregnant. I hope that once Delly comes she can see what a miracle he/she is.

Shawna I am so glad you are at home and I hope you start feeling better. I know what you mean about the near death experence and how it changes your out look on life. I have promised myself to never take things for granted like a sunset or sunrise (this is just one example). Since my ectopic I have always tried to stop and look at them and see how beautiful they are. I hope things work out well with your family and you are able to find peace with them.

[Angelwithhope]

Thanks Martie, I definately know what you're saying on the sunset. For me it's not taking advantage of the people I've got and pushing them all away. I won't ever speak to my mom's family again but I will speak to her and my immediate family. Of my mom's family gives up drinking I probably would though. Today when I got up to walk, the sun was shining and I was justenjoying how it was warm and beautiful. Life is forever changing.

[AviatrixRN]

Shawna..It is so good to see you back writing here! I am so glad you are ok and feeling a bit better. What a scary experience for you.

Jen..could be hemmorhoids although you said you couldn't see anything..If it is bright red than it is fresh blood..if it was coming from farther up the gi tract it would be dark. I bet it is from the heparin..if it continues or gets worse I would definately call the RE to let them know.

Rach..I hope you are ok with the twisters. I'm so sorry dh is being insensitive right now..I hope he sees the light soon for you!

[JustPeachy]

Shelly - I am so sorry this can't be just a happy occasion for you to celebrate with your mom and family. It's such an unusual situation with your sister I know it is tough but be sure to enjoy all these happy days. Being pregnant is so much fun and I think the challenges we go through to get there just makes it even more special. I don't mind you advice Sweetie. I read the original version I just don't always have a chance to type back with a baby in one hand I'm not sure I'm as supportive of a wife as you are. I completely understand what you are saying but I need this to be more of a 2 way street with both of us supporting our roles. I never saw myself as the stay at home mom and I've always worked and received praise in that field so I guess I'm missing some of those "accomplishments" too and it's hard when your baby can't say thanks mom either.