[FathertobeDC]

my fiance and I cant wait to get married just to begin our family. she just went to a fertility specialist today and they told her they couldnt see her ovaries in the ultrasound. she also hasnt had her period for more than 8 months. ive been researching all of this and ive come across 2 acronyms that are breaking my spirit. PCOS and worse, POF. Its difficult to speak with my fiance about this without ending up in tears, and i need to get a hold of what we are facing here. im trying so hard to be strong, but the prospect of negative news is immensely difficult to bear, and i cant be weak in front of her bc she needs me right now. i need information, help, advice, referrals, and/or someone who has been in a similar situation. if heard of ovarian tissue transplants and several other possible treatments but i am totally lost and scared. please help.

[phigment82]

It is always dissappointing to hear news like this. It is good to see a man so in tune to what is going on with his partner. From a female perspective, I would much rather see my man crying with me then "be a man" and try to find the right words to say. There are no right words. Sometimes just being there is the most comforting thing.

On the bright side, you will know what to expect before you start your life as a married couple. You two will be able to face this full on, in your newly-wed bliss.

Congrats on the engagement, you're a good man for being concerned!

[Krista]

While it's hard to hear a diagnosis, at least you both know what you'll be facing as you try to start your family. Let her see you cry, remember not to point fingers (sometimes this is easier than others). As you read info on this board you'll see lots of women w/ PCOS able to concieve through various treatments.