[Rubysmom]

I understand what your saying. So far the count is 5 of my friends are pregnant. Just found out about the 5th friend yesterday. It's depressing! Good luck to you.

[npritz]

I can totally understand where you are coming from. You want to be happy for them but at the same time you just want to punch them. Chin Up! Remember we are all in this together!

[randadawn]

I have had 3 friends acutally have children and 2 get pregnant since I found out we needed InVitro and they say the same thing! It does make you angry! And I don't know why the husbands don't get it!

[bright_eyescl09]

Originally Posted by Dakotabluebaby

I'm angry. I'm Sad. I'm frustrated.
BUT
I must belive God has a plan. I know when I do have children I will cherish them in a way no mother could unless she fought to have them. IF is a different world, I didn't choose to be part of, but there is strength here, and beauty.

So be angry. Its ok.

Oh I love that, well put...

My best friend never even tried and got pregnant back in January... now she is heading towards that due date and I feel so happy for her but so sad for me I have been trying for so long and it just isn't happening. I am done with Clomid for now, I was ovulating but no BFP and I don't know what comes next yet. So I get the frustration, but like Dakotabluebaby said, " there is strength here, and beauty"

[jjmclynn]

I am totally understanding what you are going through. I get really angy when I think about all these teens that get pregnant in a heart beat and then dont want their babies. I am trying my hardest to have a baby and then you have idiots killing them. Our time will come. I have faith. I am going to have surgery on September 2nd to make sure that my tube is not blocked. I only have one ovary and one tube. to all.
Love
Jessica

[thooker]

I have one better than everyone here. My dh sister who is as young as i don't know what just found out she is having twins mind you she already has a child who just turned one. Me and my husband are steady people we have everything that a child needs in the world and they can't offer theres "u know what". But for some reason they are just sitting on their butts making babies w/o a care in the world. I can't stand that "u know what"! It really pisses me off. This has made me almost hate them.

[jnmo73]

This is my first time signing on and I was glad in a way to see this post. I was diagnosed with unexplained infertility in 2005. Since then it seems everyone who could have a baby did or is on their way. My oldest sister got remarried in 2006. She was 40 and her youngest child was 11. So she thought she was done. A month after she was married she called to tell me she was pregant again. My heart sunk - I was only 32 at the time and I could have jumped off a bridge. But I pulled it together.
Last year my nephews 16 year old gf got pregnant. in 2006 after sharing my story with two co-workers it seem they both got pregnant simultaneously just to make me mad. My ex-sister in law got pregant that same year with twins. A family friends 19 y/o daughther just had a little girl of her own. And just recently, two co-workers told me they are 13-14 weeks pregnant.
Its a hard pill to swallow when you've been trying for so long. But you have to find the faith and the strength to deal with each and every day.
Best of luck to us all!

[carotcity]

I completely relate. I have a sister-in-law who just had her 2nd last month, another sister-in-law who is pregnant with her 3rd and many, many friends and colleagues who have been or are currently and none of them have had to endure any IF treatment and most of them are in their mid-30s! I feel like the only one who has to go through this and no one is able to relate or understand how hard it is. The longer I struggle, the more it seems that friends and family feel sorry for me, which makes it even harder.

I know you have probably heard this before, but think positive because you are so young and you have so many years to try new treatments and IF treatments are only going to improve in the future.

[Will'sGirl]

I'm new to this forum, but I'm so glad I've found it. I've got a great one too. My brother and his girlfriend have had this on-again/off-again relationship for several years and had broken up when he went to Germany for several months for work. Well, he got back, they got together, and during several weeks of drunken partying, she got pregnant. It wouldn't even be so bad if she was "mom" material, but she's not. Now, all she can do is plaster stuff about "the joy of being a mother" when she and my brother both know that we're having trouble getting pg. They don't own a home, they don't have a stable relationship, and its just not fair that they have a child, when I'm struggling.

And here's the best part. She told my Aunt the other day that she's already decided which family member will pay for each set of pictures for her son because SHE wants a monthly set of professional portraits and can't afford to pay for it. So she thinks we are going to pay for it!! How's that for having a set of brass ones?

She won't even let us see him when she comes up to visit. She will usually call about 20 minutes before they leave to go back home and say, "If you want to see him you better get up here!" And we are expected to drop everything and do what she says!

Sorry for the gripe session, but sometimes this situation just KILLS ME!!

[utley06]

My husbands brother had a baby last year, his wife doesn't take care of the child like she should at all. She doesn't like him, doesn't even want to be around him. He is speech delayed and my in laws think it is because she never interacts with him! Last week we found out they are having another child! and she had the nerve to say to me " if its another boy i don't want it at all "

When things like this happen, its very frustrating to me. Even at our young age ever single one of our friends have children and very few of them wanted the child or are good parents. It really drives me CRAZY!