[Highopes]

My story so far is (as you can probably read from my signature) is that in the last 12 months I have now had 3 m/c's. In March '09 I had d&c #2. Then in May I noticed that my period was late. My dh told me to poas & I couldn't believe it came back +ive. Blood test confirmed this. My first u/s showed little but as the RE didn't know when I had ovulated decided to do another u/s a week later. Well, lo & behold there was a fetal pole & h/b. I was so happy as I have never made it to this point before. Today I went for a follow up u/s & the technician was quiet & I knew. I saw the RE who confirmed my fear, there was no h/b. I started crying in her office I was so upset. I've now had 2 m/c in a 3 month period! My dh & I have had chromosomal testing & it has come back normal. My RE believes that it must be an embryo issue (the embryo not splitting properly). The last d&c I tried to have testing done on the fetus but there wasn't enough tissue. I am scheduled to have a d&e on Weds & hope there is more than just tissue so I can get some answers. I have been poked & prodded for so long now & keep getting the answer "your results are all normal", then why am I having recurrent m/c's?

I'm sad. I'm angry. I'm upset. I'm heartbroken. My dh wasn't there but when he picked me up I just started crying & he knew. He couldn't believe there was a h/b one week & gone the next. I know talking with my RE that my next step is IVF so that they can pick out the good embryos BUT I don't know if I can deal with another loss. Has anyone experienced anything similar to my situation?

[Cathi025]

Originally Posted by Highopes

My story so far is (as you can probably read from my signature) is that in the last 12 months I have now had 3 m/c's. In March '09 I had d&c #2. Then in May I noticed that my period was late. My dh told me to poas & I couldn't believe it came back +ive. Blood test confirmed this. My first u/s showed little but as the RE didn't know when I had ovulated decided to do another u/s a week later. Well, lo & behold there was a fetal pole & h/b. I was so happy as I have never made it to this point before. Today I went for a follow up u/s & the technician was quiet & I knew. I saw the RE who confirmed my fear, there was no h/b. I started crying in her office I was so upset. I've now had 2 m/c in a 3 month period! My dh & I have had chromosomal testing & it has come back normal. My RE believes that it must be an embryo issue (the embryo not splitting properly). The last d&c I tried to have testing done on the fetus but there wasn't enough tissue. I am scheduled to have a d&e on Weds & hope there is more than just tissue so I can get some answers. I have been poked & prodded for so long now & keep getting the answer "your results are all normal", then why am I having recurrent m/c's?

I'm sad. I'm angry. I'm upset. I'm heartbroken. My dh wasn't there but when he picked me up I just started crying & he knew. He couldn't believe there was a h/b one week & gone the next. I know talking with my RE that my next step is IVF so that they can pick out the good embryos BUT I don't know if I can deal with another loss. Has anyone experienced anything similar to my situation?

I am very sorry for your loss...I also know who hard it is to get so excited about being pregnant only to find out it ...again...is not your time...when I had my second M/C I sat in my RE's office and pleaded with him that I could not go through that pain again...we went straight from Clomid to IVF and on the first try we were execting....I had a problem late in my pregnancy, but we did Frozen embryo transfer in april and I am expecting a singleton in Jan, So yes,...It is very possible you can get past the dreaded miscarriage stage of a pregnancy....take time to grieve and then figure out what you will do next with your RE....I did IVF because my embryos would never make it to my uterus, because of PCOS.....IVF did the trick,, Good luck to you.... Cathi

[gracesmom]

I had to reply to you because I want you to hear my story. In 11/99 my DH and I got married. I stopped taking the BCP in December and we didn't "try" to get pregnant but we didn't not "try" either. My cycles were a little off after being on the BCP for 7 years. When we actually decided it was time, I used an OPK and got pregnant the first time (10/00). My dh and I even joked that we would end up have 13 kids because it was so "easy" for us. I had a beta done and it was very low. They told me that it was either really early or I was going to have a m/c. Within 5 days I began bleeding. We took a few months off and then tried again, this time I got a BFP in June 2001. The beta seemed fine and I even had an U/S around the 6 week mark where we saw a beautiful heartbeat. I measured 6w 1d. At the follow up office appt. the dr didn't say a thing until he literally had a hand on the doorknob to leave when he said, "the heartrate of the baby was a little low (110 bpm) which puts you at a greater risk of m/c." What?!? So, instead of waiting 4 weeks between appointments to find out what was going on, I had another U/S scheduled for 2 weeks later. It was hell waiting. At that appointment I knew. There was no heartbeat and the baby measured 6w 1d again. In early July I had a d&c. At the end of August, I still had not gotten my period so, for the hell of it, I poas and it was positive. The dr. said there was no way it was from the previous pregnancy because my bw had been back down to zero. I had a m/c the same day. I never got any answers from my dr. and really felt like he was just blowing me off half of the time so I switched drs.

In October 2001 I started with a new dr. During the first exam he asked if I had ever been told there was a problem with my uterus. Absolutely not. He could feel that something was wrong during the pelvic exam so I had an HSG and it was determined I had a unicornuate uterus (basically shaped like a banana, not a pear, much smaller than a regular uterus). He didn't really think this had anything to do with my 3 m/c's. So we tried for over a year, nothing happened. I went to an RE at the end of 2002, had a lap (January 2003) where they removed a little "horn" that was attached to my uterus. He said to try for 6 months before we move on to anything else. I was pregnant the next month. Grace Anne was born by c-section in November 2003. When she was 1 we started trying again w/ no luck (look at my signature) and ended up getting pregnant on our own after 2 years, having Kate in June 2007.

It CAN happen. The only thing, besides the lap, that I did to have these girls was to take a baby aspirin daily until delivery and progesterone suppositories until the 2nd trimester. I don't know what was technically wrong with me, but this protocol worked.

If I were you, I would ask to be tested for the blood clotting factor that makes your blood clot too quickly, which causes m/c. Also, your progesterone could be a problem.

This is so long because I wanted to give you my story and show you that there is hope.

Good luck.

Angela

[Highopes]

Thank you Cathi025 & gracesmom - I appreciate your support and sharing your stories and also for giving me HOPE that I can go on and have a healthy pregnancy. My RE keeps saying, "hang in there". I'm trying and every m/c doesn't make it any easier. I believe that I have been tested for blood clotting factors but then again I've had so many tests I may not have. I'm actually allergic to aspirin so I would not be able to take this but I will inquire with my RE whether I need to take something like this. Thanks again.

[Angelwithhope]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I too had RPL and there was no reasoning for it. Our bloodwork also came back normal. As you can see from my signature though, I now have four and a half month old boys. My RE put it down to my having borderline PCOS which had gone undiagnosed until about two and a half or so years of trying. I experienced a third loss in the way of an ectopic pregnancy but it was still devastating. I thought I could never carry a pregnancy to term, that I would never hold a biological child of mine, ever. But with faith, perserverance, IVF and meds to control my PCOS I gave birth to my twins at 32 weeks. (Not quite term but they are healthy babies now)

The most frustrating part of it all was not knowing why. I did not have a D&C with either of my miscarriages and to have the testing come back normal was frustrating. I know there have been some women who have taken baby aspirin and even given themselves heparin shots to avoid miscarrying after their testing too came back normal. (I also had to do progesterone suppositories until 14-15 weeks of pregnancy.)

I am again so sorry for your loss and wish you all the best in the future! You are in my thoughts!!!

[nzsc]

I am sorry for your losses. I had to respond to your post b/c I am in the same boat - 3 m/c this year. It truly has been a bad year. On 1-12-09, I began my natural m/c. I was 8w. Since then, I had two chemical preg. To concieve, I have been on injectible meds and did iui with my RE. Both iui rounds resulted in preg., but soon ended in chemical preg. I am awaiting the results of my bloodwork, that should be in tomorrow, to see if it is a gene thing. But three in seven months is a lot to bear. I am having a very hard time with this. I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone.
Natasha

[maggiemay]

pregnancy mentioned:

Nzsc: I am also part of the 3 m/c's club... it feels like it will never happen! My genetics came back completely ok, with a few blood disorders (see siggie). But my RE says that my blood disorders are probably not likely to culprit. He feels it is an egg quality issue, which means he recommended IVF with PGD. But, for now we're waiting it out and thought we'd try natural for another try. So, this month I have a very EARLY positive pregnancy test. Nothing is for sure, but we're trying for number 4. We'll see. I can only hope there is HOPE to not have to spend the money on IVF/PGD... anyway, I don't see many people with three and over miscarriages on here so I wanted to share and give you support. I know how it feels to have 3 loses and it is just so sad....

ANglewithhope: It is helpful to hear that you went on to have twins! I love hearing the positive stories! They keep us going! Thanks for sharing.

HighHopes: You know I'm thinking of you... I'm very curious if you'll share you journey if you are beginning IVF/PGD or not? I am thinking of you and continue to send you warm thoughts!

Gracesmom: Thanks for sharing so much of your story too! It is helpful for all of us! I'm glad I ran across it!

AFM: I'm on progesterone suppositories, estrogen patches, and lovenox shots. (I was on these for the 3rd m/c as well) In addition to the baby aspirin, extra folic acid, b6, b12. We wait and see I guess.

Keep us posted Highhopes and NzSC.
Maggie

[b1zz1e]

6 losses here! My RE says "I am confident you and your husband will have a child, just keep trying!"

Lets get serious here Doc! LOL

Next visit we are going to ask the doctor about blood clotting disorders and gene mutations. We have had the normal fertility blood work done, & HSG and everything is normal. We are both healthy. I would like to start experimenting. Lets see if the heparin shots work. We have tried progesterone and low dose aspirin but that didn't help.

We just want one healthy baby!!!

I wish I knew what was wrong with me. My husband was born to be a father. I just want to be able to give him a child.

Infertility just sucks the life right out of you!

[sueboo]

Hi,

I am in some what of a similar situation. I had a miscarriage in March after my first IVF. We saw the heart beat at 7 weeks and then it was gone the next week. We did another cycle in June and I got pregnant again. I went in last week which was 6 weeks for an ultrasound and all looked good. Heartbeat was 115. I went in yesterday and the hearbeat went down to 105. We went to a further ultrasound specialist who used 3-D imaging just an hour later and he said the heartbeat was 88. I know where this is headed. I have to wait unilt Tuesday to go back to see. I am trying to hang on that a miracle can happen but I know the odds are against me. I can't stop cyring and feel like there is a bigger problem on top of the problem of just not being able to get pregnant on our own. I just need support right now from others who know how I feel.

[maggiemay]

Sue: Of coarse you need support! Gosh, we all do! That's why this site is great. I'm sorry you are going through this. I'm thinking about you.

B1zz1e: You are right, this infertility stuff just sucks the life right out of us. Your RE says to keep trying? So, it sounds like you get pregnant but then lose them? Me too, I seem to be able to get pregnant, no problem... but then I've never made it ... I wish for just ONE little one too... just one. I'll be thinking of you and keeping an eye out for good news!
maggie

[Highopes]

b1zz1e & sueboo - I am so sorry for your losses as well. This is a great site for venting and support. It has helped me a lot. As all of us on this post know how hard it is to m/c once but more than that is even harder. I actually found out a few days ago the results of the genetics from my last d&e, the embryo had Trisomy 12 (an extra chromosome). This is the first time that I have actually received results that weren't normal. I meet with my RE in a couple of weeks to talk about doing PGD with IVF. So I'm hoping that if this works they can rule out the bad embryos (if any have any genetic abnormalities) and hope for the best.

for all of us to move on and have successful pregnancies.

[mrw]

I haven't been on this board in over two years but had to respond to this post. From 2005 to 2006 I had two miscarriages 6 months apart, one at 8 weeks then one at 5 weeks (chemical pregnancy). The following year I had a severely abnormal fetus discovered on ultrasound at 12 weeks, requiring termination of the pregnancy. I despaired of ever being able to create a normal healthy life inside me. After this my Dr. recommended IVF with preimplantation genetic diagnosis. I was found to have some normal embryos in each cycle, but after 2 cycles did not get pregnant. Despaired further, but gave up on IVF. Geneticist said there was no reason I shouldn't be able to have a normal baby. Tried to believe it. In May of 2007 I got pregnant again, with twins. It was hard to believe things would work out....in January of 2008, 3 months before my 40th bday, I gave birth to Chiara and Leo, who are now almost 19 months old, and wonderful!!
Every day they remind me how glad I am I didn't give up....

[futuremom2b]

Had to post too! It's such a sad and hard situation to be in. The MC's are so draining emotionally and it's so sad. You feel so sad and alone and people say really dumb things to try and help!
Anyway... I too finally was diagnosised with a clotting disorder (APS/Huges Syndrome). Make sure they run all the necessary tests. Most insurances will pay after 3 losses (I think it should be after 2, 3 is just so many).
I would have paid out of pocket for them if I knew that it would mean saving my LO's.
I hate that we have a little club of us.... It's so sad.
babydust!

[maggiemay]

OH my gosh I'm so glad that more of you are writing in. I'm sad that there is a little club of us but it is so reassuring to hear from you, to know you are out there and to hear how things are going. There are so few on these message boards that have the high number of loses that it is nice to just see it and hear it from you all that have been through it too!

AFM: I'm currently on try #4 and praying this little one can stick!! Your stories give me hope!!! And if in the end I have to try for #5... the knowledge that you all are out there gives me support.

Thanks for writing in!
futuremom2be: You've had some good news, how are things going for? How do you get through each day in these early weeks?

mrw: THANK YOU so much for writing in!!! HOPE HOPE HOPE!!!

Keep us posted ladies!

[b1zz1e]

Thank you so much for all of the responses. Maybe there is light at the end of this dark tunnel. Back to RE Sept 23rd. I will keep everyone updated.

Thanks again for writing your thoughts.