[sarah16]

I actually haven't told very many people about my IF journey. I always feel as if I need to explain myself about how long I've been trying and yes, I'm blessed I have an amazing daughter but I would love to have more kids. So, how about you gals? Do you tell anyone who will listen or just close family and friends?

[inhishands]

Hello! we're in the same boat... we have not told many, my mom and sister know that is it... and honestly i do feel now that i shouldnt have told them...Only because now its non stop questions, on whats my next step etc.. dont get me wrong, im probably sounding ungrateful but i am a private person, and i dont want them to feel awkward so id rather not say anything. When i first told them, they were great, but back in the summer my mom made a comment to me that i was "obsessed" about this entire topic.. SOOO after i freaked on her.. we havent mentioned the IF since.. its just better that way for me. My dh has varicocele surgery back in November so they think were in the "Hold" stage until his recovery time is up... but im actually in the IVF process now... im on BCP and Lupron now.
I have such a close knit family, i come from a huge family, full of girls and im the only one with this issue, so no one understands it.. and im thankful that they never had this issue... but when i feel down or alone, if DH isnt helping.. i always log on to here and can find the great support that i need.
Each person is different, do what you feel is best!

[mnwilkes]

To get the actual support I need, I mainly stay with talking to my husband. I have one very good friend I can turn to, but other than that, my family members tend to not want to take the time to listen and most of my friends couldn't possibly comprehend what I'm going through. I've tried and they all just say "It'll happen, give it time". Not what I need to hear!

[sarah16]

I understand what you mean about this being a private matter. My in-laws want to be supportive but they ask the most bazarre questions when they talk to us that I would rather not get into it.

[KarryB]

We've told my family and friends. People at work know because of all the appt's! Everyone has been SO supportive! I find myself getting tired of talking about it! I'm in between treatments now due to a cyst. So hopefully we can get started next month! I was thinking...if we get preggers next month it will be a December baby! What a GIFT that would be!!
to all!

[sarah16]

I know, I remember how I wanted to plan this baby around my work schedule and now I laugh that I will be happy whenever it comes. I can tell you what my due date will be every month I try and conceive though!

[Kathy]

My mum and sister know as well... but i dont discuss much with them or cry in front of them...my DH is the one who helps me, he's very supportive emotionally...

[sarah16]

The same here the only people I have cried with is my DH and my friend from work who has gone through a IVF unsuccessfully.

[Junebug]

All of my close friends and my mom know we are doing IVF.
For support, either it is DH- who is just wonderfully supportive, or my very best friend is actually an IVF nurse. She is a great resource for advice and a terrific sounding board. I can tell her everything. She also had 1 daughter (age 1 1/2)- but it is unsafe for her to get pregant again- her preganacy with DD was horrible and almost fatal. My friend wants another child, so she kind of knows what I am going through, though she is technically not infertal.

I was much moer verbal about it for my first 2 cycles- I was very excited. Now I am not very hopeful and much more stressed about it-so, I don't talk about it as much.

[riz2525]

My situation was very difficult. I was on my third year of seperation from my husband when I was diagnosed with endo. I was afraid to share unfrotunately the one person I chose to tell judged me and even went as far as accusing me of testing God. I became so deepressed and regreted why I shared with her. After all I kept the situation to myself till three months into my pregnancy. I used a donor to concieve because I wasn't ready to get into another relationship just to have a baby.

[sarah16]

Congrats on your pregnancy. I have to say more people know about my IF now that we are trying to adopt.