[CryingInside]

That would really be horrible. She is just torturing you. Apparently she doesn't understand IF at all...maybe you should sit her down and just tell her that she is really hurting you with all of these comments. In a really sane moment I feel like I am having, maybe she doesn't realize that she's hurting you? Of course, she might know, but if you don't talk to her how will you know for sure?

[mrsrodgers]

Thanks ladies...my DH has spoken to her and now I think she is avoiding me like the plague (which is very nice) I still have to deal with her but I have added caller id to our phone and we even have it set up to show who is calling on our tv...I just don't really answer the phone from her....I do wonder if she knows what she is doing but then there are times I KNOW she is doing it on purpose...I have talked to my sister in law (the nice one who is married to my DH's brother) and she has issues with her all the time as well (and they do have children) and apparently with extended family, if they aren't blood related then they aren't good enough. We have talked to others who have issues with her...at least it isn't just directed at me....I just have been avoiding contact with her as much as possible and life is much easier. DH and I have been thinking about going away for thanksgiving just to avoid any family obligations with her....

Thanks for all the support...I know there are MIL's out there that are worse but I can't imagine....

[hopeful2bmom]

Sandi- I have the exact MIL. Mine made a rude comment about us adopting. She found an adoption book in MY room and said to my DH, "How dare you adopt someone elses child instead of having your own???????!!!!!! WTF???

She is Filippino so I try to tell myself it is a language barrier and cultural thing, but the fact of the matter is she is just plain rude.

Your MIL is completely insensitive. You are not overreacting at all! I feel for you. Your best bet is to confron her and tell how how much that hurts you when she says those things. By holding it in you are just harboring resentment and that is a dangerous thibg to hold onto as it comes out in so many different ways when you least expect it.

Also, tell DH that he should step up to the plate. That was my DH's biggest problem, he was too afraid of hurting her feelings and standing up for me! The nerve. He learned his lesson big time from that though...
Good luck sweetie.