[babyplease]

Hi Ladies!!! It sounds like both of you are doing well. Your both laughing anyway. Always a positive!!

Sara, I really hope that that all the BDing will work for you. Lots of babydust and prayers coming your way !!! I agree with Jessica though, your last comment on your post is very funny!!LOL!! I think it's cute!! Lord knows that we have ALL been doing enough of that!! I think that after I get a BFP I won't ever want to BD again!!!LOL Poor DH!! I guess I'd better not tell him that!! LOL Just keep positive thoughts and either way you will make it through. It's so great that we are here for each other. I'm having a pretty good week. I should get AF early next week and I'm not even stressing!! I still catch myself thinking about "what if" from time to time but I have actually done really well. I'm so proud of myself . Especially with how obsessive I had become. Now just ask me how long this newfound attitude will last. LOL I'll just take it day by day I guess.

Jessica, I'm sorry to hear that your Easter was a bummer. At least you have plans to make it up though. I hope your little guy feels better now. I can just imagine how difficult it is when your child is sick. Great job with the how the weight loss is coming along too !! I'm very happy for you and your DH. Before you know it you will be BDing as much as Sara!!!lol Heck, I hope we all BD as much as Sara. Sounds like she's having fun!!!lol (Sorry Sara, I couldn't resist. Please forgive me. Only joking )
Anyway ladies, I'm happy everyone is well and lots of babydust and BFP's to us all!!!

Hugs and kisses coming your way , Regina

P.S. No matter how positive I seem now I still may need a shoulder to cry on when AF shows next week so make sure you send me lots of smooches!!

[mrssega]

Sometimes just not thinking about things for a month. No medications, no appts, no schedule. We were trying for 4 yrs, and there were times that it felt more like a science experiment then an intimate act beween two people. Good luck!!!

[Sarah_84]

Originally Posted by mrssega

Sometimes just not thinking about things for a month. No medications, no appts, no schedule. We were trying for 4 yrs, and there were times that it felt more like a science experiment then an intimate act beween two people. Good luck!!!

Congrats on your pregnancy! Wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months!!! I can relate to feeling like a science experiment sometimes but I find it really interesting (and frustrating! lol!). I know I'm a better person with what I've gone through and I know that I'll not take any moment for granted. It's also taught me that I have to have patience with some things. (That really sucks!). As much as I didn't want to go on a break for these past 6 weeks, I know it was the best thing for me because I'm extemely positive again and ready to face any challenges that arise with new determination. Congrats again!!! xoxoxo

[Sarah_84]

Hi Regina! Wow, that would be nice not having to BD! I say we should all get preggo now and put up a protest! Massages instead of BD! lol! I'd miss it after a week, I might compromise with DH, one week of massage, one week of BD! lol!

I'm proud of you too! I'm 4dp ovulation and I already tested! I knew nothing would be on there but I was obsessing so much that I thought if I just do it then it might stop me thinking about it for at least a week. So far it's worked!
I hope that we're not gonna have to be here to comfort you, I hope that we'll be here celebrating for you!!! If not then we'll pick you up and help you start a new cycle with determination!

I'm feeling really positive but starting to freak out at the same time, I'm having all the same feelings that I did last time and it's around the same time. I'm hoping it doesn't mean anything bad. Only positive thoughts!!!

Lots of baby dust to all of us! xoxoxoxoxo

[babyplease]

Hi mrssega, I too wish to congratulate you on your BFP!! I hope you have a healthy pregnancy and a beautiful, healthy baby!! We have all been struggling and are tired so it's nice to see a light at the end of the tunnel. I'm all for the less stress, the better. Thank you again for sharing!!

[babyplease]

Hi Sara, You always bring a smile to my face when I read your postings. You tested already?!! LOL Girl, you are going to give yourself a heart attack! lol I'm glad you at least have the courage to test. I don't. I always tell myself that I will wait and see. If I don't get AF then I will test. I take my hat off to you because I don't have the courage to test early. You stated that you were having the same symptoms that you had last time. Really?? Maybe you are pregnant!! Hopefully it will be a healthy pregnancy this time and not etopic. I wouldn't be surprised if you were because I was always told that it's really easy to get pregnant right after a pregnancy (healthy or failed) because the female is so fertile and her body produces many more eggs during the first couple of cycles. I hope this is it for you !! I will send prayers and lots of babydust your way. Make sure you keep me posted!! I LOVE your idea of massages instead of BDing. I think that's a very fair trade off. One week of massage and one week of BD!!lol Boy, great minds think alike!!lol I'm glad that you actually sound refreshed and happy today. I don't really know how I feel. Sometimes I feel that AF is coming and sometimes I don't. I have been really tired lately and my BB's hurt but that could just be pms. I've had some cramping but I'm not sure if is premenstral or not. Oh well, AF is due on Tuesday so we will see!! Either way I am not going to worry because I know you are here if I need to vent. I'm trying to talk myself down now so if AF comes I won't be disappointed. I will just try, try again. As we all know by now, nothing happens when you want it to. But it will happen!! Sending you lots of hugs and kisses as usually and keeping my fingers crossed for both of us!! Regina

[Mom2MandyandTristan]

Oh my lovely ladies I am sooooo hoping congratulations are coming soon!!
I like the massage thing I need one now lol. I have been home sick for 2 days with a stomach bug but I think I'm over it now (hopefully).

[Sarah_84]

Hi girls!
Regina, I'm glad I could make you smile! I've heard that too about being exta fertile after losing a baby, the doctor at the hospital told me that but she also said that the chance of miscarriage is increased for the first 3-6 months after. I refuse to listen to her with that one! I'm all for selective hearing! (that must be the male side of me coming out! )
I know how you feel by trying to talk yourself down, I've done that many times to help ease the dissapointment. Just imagine the suprise you'll have if it is a BFP!!! I wish there was a way to know for sure before AF arrived and without peeing on a stick. One of the girls suggested urine turning purple. I think that's a great idea, maybe we can send someone a partition and make it happen! (I wish!) I hope Tuesday comes fast with no AF but if she does arrive, just remember, she's the start of a brand new cycle and one step closer to your BFP! Keep positive and keep me posted! Praying for both of us! xoxoxo

Jessica, I'm sorry you ended up getting sick too. It really sucks! I'm glad you're getting better!
Keep resting until you're 100% again! I hope congrats are coming soon too! That will be so wonderful! Take care! xoxoxoxo

[babyplease]

Hi Sara, Thank you as always for understanding. I love your idea of being able to know before AF or testing your urine. Wouldn't that be awesome!!? How are you feeling? You sound really good so that is a plus. I know either way that you will be okay. I have a really good feeling about this though. With that many mature follies at least one or two has to take this time. I will pray extra hard that this pregnancy is healthy for you. I am praying for both of us this cycle. Like you said though if nothing else, AF coming signals the start of a new cycle and I view it as that. Thanks for the encouragement!! Lots of babydust coming your way. I will let you know as soon as I am sure. Good news or not!!
Sending you hugs and kisses and lots of luck This is your month!!!!!

Hi Jessica, I am so sorry that you don't feel well now. I hope you get better really soon. Make sure that you keep us posted on your son's surgery as well as your doctors appointment. Just want to make sure you are okay. Big hug coming your way

Talk to you soon girls, Regina

[babyplease]

Hi Sara, Just letting you know that AF arrived today ARG!!! Oh well, like you said before, this isn't the end. This is only the beginning of a new cycle. I am not happy but I think I got thru this okay this time. I'm not feeling devastated and depressed.

I will continue to hope and pray that you get a BFP this cycle. I still feel like this is it for you. Let me know!!! Regina

[Mom2MandyandTristan]

Hey Regina I am so sorry that AF showed her ugly head. I'm glad at your positive attitude and Sarah is right it isn't the end it's the beginning of a whole new cycle.
Sarah How is it going with you? Anything new?

Ladies I need some advice, badly. I am extermely upset with hubby. As you know we just moved to a house so our monthly payments have doubled from the rent we use to pay and while we have everything we need & some stuff we want we are supposed to be saving. We need an emergency fund (our last one was wiped out with the move), we have to save for 2 new cars (we both drive to work and there isn't any public transportation to either location & both are close to thier last legs hubby's more so) plus if we do get preggs I could be put on bed rest early on again so I won't be able to work. Anyway today I go to this car for something and I see all these wrappers and bags and containers from all these fast food places. So here I am scrimping and savings every dime. I made a budget and have stuck to it. I bring my own lunch to work everyday, I shop with coupons and only buy essential stuff, I use to go to the salons every 2 weeks now I only go when I make extra money that week (so usually about every 6-8 weeks, if that). I am soooo angry at him for this. I'm doing without while he isn't. I have been wanting chinese food for dinner for the longest but didn't want to spend the money when we have food here. Oh hubby also got a cell phone ticket last week and was saying he didn't have the money to pay it so we had a few extra bucks in our account and I told him to use that money (although I wanted to save it since I will out of work a whole week when Tristan has his surgery). I have no idea how to approach him about this since I am so mad. I'm not good at confrontations (I'm latin I have a quick fuse lol & usually don't censor what I say when I'm mad) so how do you think I should handle this?? Sorry for the long post & for going on like this.

[babyplease]

Hi Jessica, Boy!! Sounds like you have a bit of a problem. I will be the first to say that you guys absolutely need to TALK about this. Before you approach him, why don't you make a list of your concerns and approach in a matter of fact way instead of just showing your anger. I am finding that this seems to work better with my DH. For some reason men only seem to hear nagging or feel that we are scolding them when we are upset with their behavior no matter how right we are. Try not to raise your voice ( I know this is difficult, I too have this problem) when he says something stupid or pushes your buttons. I have been reading a book that also suggest asking your spouse to repeat the question you asked them or the statement you just made in order to make sure that they not only HEAR you but UNDERSTAND what you just said. This is a serious problem because as you said you guys are trying to save money right now and it's not fair, nor will it work if only one of you abides by the rules. You have to discuss this and come up with a plan that works for both of you. One that you BOTH can stick to. Try writing down your list of things that you want to bring up first and then approach him so he doesn't take it as nagging ( most men do this no matter what but try). Make sure he understands how important this is and he takes it seriously. I know that you are angry right now and sometimes we say things we don't mean. Writing things down prevents some of that. Take your time and sort this out with him. If he can't follow the plan that you guys come up with he needs to tell you now. I will pray that you guys work this out and you get through this without saying anything you don't mean. Big hugs coming your way!! You will work this out. Regina

P.S. Aren't men so much fun!!! Why in the world are we trying so hard to have children when we ALREADY have one!! LOL

[Mom2MandyandTristan]

LOL!! Thanks for the advice Regina. Hubby will be home soon so while preparing dinner I will stay calm and write my list and talk during dinner. It has been a challenge going from pretty "spoiled" to watching my spending and asking myself to justify every purchase before buying something. I just want to feel like a team in this, we're pretty much a team in everything else (except household chores but I won't go there) lol!

[babyplease]

Hi Jessica, I'm glad you decided to go ahead and make a list of issues and try to discuss them with him without getting angry. Just checking in with you to see how things went. I hope everything has been put on the table so you guys and begin to come up with a plan. Let me know how things are going!!

[babyplease]

Hi, Sara. Now it's my turn to check on you. Are you okay? I can't wait to hear your news!!! Regina