[keeeen]

Hi, I'm new here. I have 3 children, 12, 7, and 5. M/c 11/98, 2/05, and 6/08. DH and I have been ttc for 3 years. I have pcos and a tilted uterus. Dh had testicular cancer in '99. We are waiting the results of his spermalysis. I'm on 1500 mg of metformin. Waiting another week before I do a round of provera and then a HSG. We have been extremely blessed with our chilldren all conceived without any intervention. I am frustrated and confused with this time, and feeling guilty that I already have 3 beautiful children. I'm an open book and love to chat. Look forward to getting to know some of you soon.

[Jessilayne]

Hey there, I am new here as well. I feel in the dark and unprepared for much of the ttc discussion. All I know is that 4 years ago I got pregnant. Now we are in month eight. At my yearly exam in August, I brought up some mild abdominal discomfort. Knowing that we wanted to get pg, she wanted to rule out anything. I had an ultrasound which showed that everything was fine. I am thinking of taking the next step soon to figure this thing out. I don't think you should feel guilty for a second. You are blessed with your 3, and having another child to love well would be a gift for your family as well as for the universe.

[sarah16]

Welcome!! You can't feel guilty for wanting more children. I hope you and your doctor can figure something out together. Good luck.

[StillWantAnother]

Hi there!
Also new here. My DH and I have 2 kids, DS almost 9 and DD 7. We have been trying unsuccessfully for about 3 years to have another. I think I was in denial for quite a long time b/c we got pregnant with both children so easily before. Finally we went back to the GYN. DH's S.A. and all my labs came back normal. U/S showed cyst on L ovary but doc doesn't think I have PCOS. Going for HSG this week and have never done this before. Doc does suspect scarring issues b/c in doing my C-section w/my DD he remarked on how difficult a surgery it was from so many adhesions from previous C with DS. Hope I got that across clearly, lol. Anyway, hoping to find some support and just some girls to share things with/ask questions/vent. It is a strange thing, this "secondary" infertility bit. No one really understands and I am so sick of the typical stuff you hear when people find out you want more kids but can't seem to conceive them. Anyway, thanks for reading and I look forward to chatting with all of you

[alycez123]

Hi, I am new to this form, but just read your post and can relate. I have three children as well 4, 5, 6!

All were conceived naturally. We have "unexplained infertility" We have been trying about 19months and I am now 39--so age is not on our side.

Next cycle (in a few days), I am going to start Gonal-F and then get inseminated.

I feel a bit crazy and feel guility as well. Sometimes I think that I am so worried about #4 that I naglect the 3 that are around. I honestly do not even know how I am going to manage the kids and the fertility treatments at the same time. The monitoring (bloodwork and ultrasound) goes on very early in the AM (way before school) so I am going to have to bring them to the RE with me if DH is not home!

When I went to the RE they did not treat me as the lunitic I think that I am (of course I did not expect them too). The MD was very matter of fact about my options etc. I guess only we can decide about when we are done making our families. I hope to get pg with twins and then I will be done

[StillWantAnother]

Nice to meet you I too would love to get pregnant with twins and then be done. Because ultimately I feel like my 3rd will almost be like an only child b/c my older 2 will be sooo much older by the time the next one(hopefully) comes. Yeah, the guilt thing is rough. But I know that I want another and honestly it doesn't matter what other people think. You have to do what is right for you and your family. I strongly belive that everything happens for a reason and when the time is right the baby will come My DH and I have already decided however that Clomid and IUI are the farthest we are willing to go. If it doesn't happen then, then I will probably foster. I have this need to nurture

[alycez123]

How did you know that is why I wanted twins! So, the hopeful next does not feel like an only child.

I agree that everything happens for a reason. What that reason is, I do not know..

PS. I had an HSG and it was not such a big deal. I also have to do another on CD5-10.

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