[dadismanjkra]

Hello! I am new to message boards. I just needed to turn to people who understand. I am frankly tired of hearing "It will happen when it's meant to." I am a 29 yr old who has a beautiful girl named Lily. My hubby and I started to try for a second one seven months ago and have had no luck. Lily was so easy to conceive; literally, the day we said we wanted to try, we got pregnant. We've had a rough two years since then with a mother dying and emotional stress, but we didn't want to start trying because we thought I'd get pregnant right away again. We were wrong. I know 7 months isn't a lot, but I just feel like something is wrong. I went to an OB about it and she said to "just keeping trying." My cousin who has had all sorts of infertility problems told me to ask for a progestrone test to see if I am ovulating, and the OB told me there is no such test. Anyone have a similar experience. When should I force the issue?

[kristyr41982]

Of course my situation is a little different since I had primary infertility, but I understand your frustration. We have been trying for 16 months for #2 without success. I would recommend waiting until the 1 year mark to go see someone though. With our young age they don't even look at us until 1 year of trying. We had that the 1st go around. I knew something was wrong at about 6 months but couldn't get anyone to help me until 1 year. Go to a reproductive endocrinologist if you have a PPO. Bypass your OB. My OB said there was no way I had problems at 22 years old and boy was he wrong.

[lilcbru]

Have you been charting your cycle or taking ovulation tests? That might be something you could do for a month or two, if you feel uncomfortable pressing the issue with your doctor. In my opinion, though, you should press the issue now. You should trust your instincts if you feel like something is wrong. My OB said the same thing to me, but said if I still felt concerned to call and he would refer me to an RE. Thank goodness I did. We would have just been wasting more time. Even the professionals don't seem to take secondary infertility seriously. My RE thought I would be a simple clomid girl. If only it had been that easy!

[wtnganother1]

I got pregnant with #1 when we weren't trying, and figured the second time around would be the same. Our son is now 10, and we're finally pregnant with #2. I worked with my regular OB/GYN for a few months with Clomid, but thankfully went on to a specialist, and it was a world or difference. Don't fuss around with your regular OB for long. The specialist does so much more testing and really has a good idea of what's going on, and you will, too. You'll save yourself a lot of heartache and time. If you decide to wait until the one year mark, that's your choice. If you do, I would start taking ovulation tests every month to try to determine if/when you're ovulating. If you are on your own, maybe you won't need to go on and you'll be pregnant on your own! If you don't ovulate, or don't ovulate regularly, that's a good thing to know.

Also, it would be good to find out about some of the specialists in your area. Ask around if you know anyone who's done infertility. You want someone who's good. You also want someone who's close. You'll be going to that office A LOT.

Good luck!

[dadismanjkra]

Thanks so much for your comments. It does just feel better to talk to people who understand. I will keep you in my thoughts while you keep trying. I agree that doc. don't take young people seriously. We can have problems too. Thanks again.

[dadismanjkra]

I am not good at BBT charting, but I have been writing down my cycles and any bodily signs I see of ovulation. I've also taken ovulation tests every month, but they are getting increasingly frustrating since it looks like I have a positive test for 3-4 days in a row. This cycle I am going to try BBT charting just so I have some more ammunition going into another doc appt. I decided I will give it two more cycles, and then truly press the issue. Thanks for your encouragement there. Sometimes it's hard to be an advocate for myself without feeling like people think I am crazy. Thanks so much again and good luck to you.

[dadismanjkra]

Thanks for the comments. I am trying to determine if I am ovulating on my own. I really can't tell. The tests make it seem like I have 3-4 days where I have a LH surge, and I've read that could be a horomone problem. It's really nice to feel enpowered once again with your comments, and not feel like I am crazy. Good luck to you, too.

[lilcbru]

Good idea to chart and take it to the RE with you. It will give them more insight into your cycle. Good luck!

[Darkwing]

My wife and I had no problems conceiving our first. After a few clomid cycles, 1 failed iui, and 2 failed ivf's we were frustrated (all of which took place over the past 2 years.) My sperm is perfect according to the dr.'s and according to the obgyn, my wife is and I quote "gynecologically healthy." We were having loads of stress during those 2 years with job changes and house for sale and the constant fear of the artificial processes not working so I'm sure that had something to do with all our failures. So we decided to take a step back and just start enjoying each other again, trying naturally until it just happens on it's own, when it's supposed to. We're way less stressed now and enjoying the lovemaking but it would be wonderful to get the reward soon! Any advice?