[rosy60s1]

I'm 43, been trying for 4y , now at 10w preg. found out I'm having twins , but no fetal heart detected for both , I'm very depressed , this was the last hope , I can do nothing , why this happened ? it's so hard .....I just wanted to talk about it , I can't find a reason why this happens to me .....it's like a stab.....

[slobin]

Rosy,

I am so so sorry to hear this! We are all here to talk and listen. Also there is a forum here for pregnancy loss that might be helpful.

Hugs,

[rosy60s1]

Hi Slobin ;
Thanks for your feelings , I'm scheduled for D&C next Sat. , what an end ...

Regards

[MaggieMoo]

Rosy,
I am so sorry hear about your loss! I too had a mc last year so I totally understand how you must be feeling. The best thing to do is to lean on those who are there for you. I will keep you in my prayers!
Big hug to you!

Me: 31
DH: 32
DS: 5 years Old

M/C: 9.14.06
ttc: 2 years
Unexplained IF
**7 cycles of clomid
**Hcg shots
**Progesterone supp
**HSG Scheduled for 9.12.06
**DH having SA on 9.18.06
**NEW RE since 8.22.06

[Lou lou]

Dear Rosy,

How sad I am for you. I have had two m/c, but not as far along as you. I can't imagine how you must feel. Wish I knew what to say to help, but I don't.
Very sorry.

We're here if you want to vent....

Lori

[rosy60s1]

Dear Maggie & Lou Lou :

Thanks for your time , I visited the (pregnancy loss) forum here as Slobin advised , and crying all the time ,
It's my fault that I didn't think of having a baby earlier...

[slobin]

Rosy,

It is not your fault. You did your best. Young women have miscarriages all the time, so it not necessarily your age. Will you try again?

[Lou lou]

Originally Posted by rosy60s1

Dear Maggie & Lou Lou :

Thanks for your time , I visited the (pregnancy loss) forum here as Slobin advised , and crying all the time ,
It's my fault that I didn't think of having a baby earlier...

Rosy,
Don't you dare blame yourself for this terrible tragedy!! Absolutly not!!! You didn't have a baby earlier because it wasn't the right time for you for whatever reasons. We can't live our lives with regrets about IF or we'll all go insane. You musn't have been ready earlier. While I don't believe that this is what God has planned for you (m/c), I do beleive that something had gone terribly wrong and your body was smart enough to know not to keep moving forward. Who knows what was going on in there. They usually say that we m/c or have chemical pregnancies because the cells we're not dividing correctly or there were bad cells forming.

Please don't blame yourself. That's basically all I'm trying to say....

xo lori

[jenedens6102]

Rosy,
I'm so sorry for your loss. Please don't blame yourself, no one ever knows why things happen the way they do. Don't lose hope, keep your head up. We are here to support you in any way we can.