[ladybug1977]

I just wanted to say hi to all of you and introduce myself. This seems to be the most appropriate place for me. DH and I have been ttc for 3 years now. He has one dd, age 7, from his previous marriage and I have one dd, age 11, and one ds, age 6, from mine. I was widowed at the age of 25 and he is divorced. So, where to begin...I am frustrated beyond belief! People are like, "you already have enough kids" and "why in the world would you want another one". What does it matter to them, anyway? DH and I desperately want a child of our own. It has been hard. We have been ttc for awhile now and it is a long, hard road. I have done way too many rounds of clomid (just like living in an oven...major hot flashes) my dh was ready to move out into a tent in the garage except for fertile days!! We made it and he paid the insane electric bills while I sweated it out like a mad woman. We tried ttc naturally for a time and now dh is more than ready to move forward with treatment. I have been ready! So, here we go....I have my lab and hsg, perfectly fine. However, sa results were bad. Count was 6.5 mil, motility 37%, and morph 48%. The doc's nurse said, "well, it's not a total wash" WHAT IS THAT??? "You can do IVF" DH wants to repeat the test and see what it says this time. I am depressed. My children are wonderful, beautiful little darlings and I should be content......but, I want another one! Any support?

[sarah16]

Good luck and welcome. I am also in the secondary infertility category! I would say go ahead and redo the test, it shouldn't cost too much. Or you can get a second opinion. You and your husband will have to decide what road you want to take in having a child. We are just starting our first IUI this month.

[imtrying2]

This is great place to get a listening ear, advice, and to just vent. I would highly recommend you get a second op. Also you want to have a RE that will make you feel comfortable and keep you informed. To say "not a complete wash" is not very professional. As you progress in your treatments you will spend a LOT of time at the RE. Make sure you are comfortable with the staff.

Yes, you have been blessed with kids before but that should not mean that you are not allowed to want more. I say continue to try and it will happen. Stay focus and try to avoid the negative people.

[willow]

I haven't been here for a while..it's been a few months since I was diagnosed and treated for an ectopi pregnancy. I haven't felt like even thinking about ttc. Now, that I have the all clear from my OB (had my last exam/US last week) I have been getting in gear for ttc again!! Although, I am scared to death that it will happen again

So, it is nice to be back.
Take care,

Willow

[mrsrodgers]

I just wanted to let you know that you are in the right place!!! It is nobody's business how many children you want to have and just hope they are supportive....good luck and always feel free to vent here....

[Kim2797]

My husband also had issues with his motility and his doctor recommended a vitamin supplement called Proxeed. I can't prove it made a difference, but 4 months later we were pregnant with our daughter. It is worth a shot.

[Lemonheads]

I agree..it doesn't matter how many children you already have. DH and I have been trying for 15 now going to be 16 months since I know have to take BCP's to get rid of cysts. I also hate it when people assume that you should be able to have a 2nd, 3rd, or 4th child just because you have 1 child. Things change over the years so it's not always a given it will happen. I say, get a 2nd opinion, and keep trying!

[LittleLadySky]

I been there also..but like the girls had said to you it is no ones place to tell you how many kids you can have. I also have to 2 kids from previous relantionship and my DH also has 2, but WE decide that we want kids together and we will not listen to no ones comments. This is my say to everyone that try to discourage me...If you dont have words of support, do me a favor and keep them to yourself and I continue with my life.
I go to sleep with God and I get up with God, he is the only one that had walk me thru good and bads all my life and he will be the only one I will need in my life.
Have faith and everything will work for you and your DH.

God Bless You...and take the next step.