Hello everyone

My Name is Kim Malay and I am the new Moderator for this Forum. I look forward to getting to know all of you and supporting you through your journeys. To just give you a little background. I am 35, I have a 16 yr old daughter(next week actually) from a previous relationship and am married to my dear husband for 5 years and actually have been with him for 11 yrs. We have been ttc since we got married, did 2 IUI's and 1 IVF and then called it quits. I have always been interested in adoption because my parents were foster parents when I was young, but it took us a while to get to the point of looking into adoption. Now that we have made that decision I know it was the right path for us. I am a firm believe that adoption is not the 2nd choice it is another way of finding your child. Love is thicker than blood and that is what matters most. We have chosen to adopt through the state and are currently waiting for placement and actively inquiring. I am the list owner of a very active secondary infertility group and hope that I can be there for you and provide you with the same safe haven we have created on that list. Please feel free to contact me anytime if you have any question or comments at malayklan@earthlink.net

[MaggieMoo]

Hello Kim!!
Let me introduce myself...My name is Tricia. I am 31 and have been ttc for 2 years. My dh and I have a 5 year old little boy. Last September I had a mc at 8 weeks. Since then I have had a lap, 4 rounds of clomid and now being labeled as "unexplained". It is so frustrating for me!! Last month I decided that I was not happy with my RE and switched. This new RE is coming up with a lot more tests and possible diagnoses that my other RE didn't even want to consider! So now I am waiting for AF so we can proceed with early hormone level blood work and a possible tube check.
Good Luck to you during the adoption process!!!


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Me: 31
DH: 32
DS: 5 years
TTC: 2 years
MC: September 2005

[sarah16]

Welcome Kim!

[mnwilkes]

Kim!!

[MIRANDA12503]

Welcome!!

Wishing you the best of luck with your adoption plans!!

Miranda

[SchmennaLeigh]

Hey all; this is a very old post!

[raquielle]

Hi. I am new here and experiencing secondary infertility. My story is much like yours. I'm 35 with a 16 year old son. My husband and I have been togther for 3 years and have been ttc for most of that time. I most likely have tubal infertility...by most likely I mean that one tube is blocked and the other spilled slowly. I have hope that the "slow" tube might come through but so far nothing. We plan to go the Czech Republic in a year to do ivf.

[mb2009]

Hi. I'm new to this but feeling so frustrated lately that I need to vent somewhere to others who can understand. People think why am I sad if I have one child, but now that I decided to have another it's frustrating and sad it's not happening. I waited late to have a child, which is probably my problem (age) as I had 3 m/c's but luckily had a son in 2007. Trying to conceive again for a year as I just turned 39 but no luck with Clomid last 2 months. I was so focused on mc's and figured well now I know what to expect and will take Progesterone and vitamins etc even though don't know if helped for sure with my son, but now can't even get to that step. I started acupuncture recently but not that into it and feel pressure with time b/c of my age, so don't want to do acupuncture and take all these herbs paying $100 a week for a year just to find out nothing. My case is of unknown origin. I have a referral to do dye xray of my uterus but it says to do it days 5 to 9 and not to have sex for 3 days after and I've been ovulating early so don't want to miss opportunity to have sex to ttc just to do a test that likely will show nothing as I was pregnant 4 times before but 3 m/c's so likely not blockage or cyst problem. My husband is doing sperm analysis this week but again I doubt it will show anything helpful. Part of me feels I should just feel lucky to have a child and not torture myself but now that I decided to have a baby I feel so sad every time I get my period like today. I saw a RE and could do IVF but worry about multiples -- if for my first I wouldn't hesitate but for my 2nd I don't know. Acupuncurists want me to stop Clomid but I'm eager to try everything possible to help me. I do ovulate so Clomid probably not useful for me but it's all my OB could offer me. I'm not ready to adopt but it's in the back of my mind though my dh prefers a biological child. This sucks! Mostly b/c all my friends are pregnant with their 2nd child (literally 6 friends) so hard to be having problems. They all had first babies when I was having mc's and it was hard to be happy for them witout being sad for myself but luckily it worked out for me before but doesn't seem to be this time round. My dh tries to be supportive but he gets frustrated with me b/c I'm in a bad mood all the time and I want to be happy for my son's sake. He's 21 months old. We also moved recently to have more space if we have a second child but now I feel what was the point. Any ideas to help me cope are appreciated. Thanks.
Marlana

[jennifer4799]

Just wanted to say hello and let you know that you are not the only one....

I am only 24 (will be 25 this June) and I have one beautiful Boy that will be 3 in June also. I got pregant with him with no problem, but I had to have a C-Section. We were trying for a year when we went to my OB with the situation. She done some blood work that showed that I was not ovulating, at the time progesterone was 7.1 and done a D/G Lap and D/C that showed I had lots of scar tissue and adhession from the c-section along with cysts and mild endo. My tubes were not where they were suppose to be due to scar tissue, so she moved them back into place and both are open as they should be. This past cycle was my 1st Clomid round and no luck, my progesterone level was only 0.5 this time! This is very frustrating. I think sometimes the same that you do about why can't I just be happy with my little one and not put myself through this anymore (about 1 1/2 yrs now), but I just can't seem to give up. I would love for Grayson to have someone to grow up with. I also went through the "all my friends are pregnant with their 2nd", the bad thing is, one of theirs just turned 1!!! It just remindes me of how long I have been at this. I am currently waiting to start Clomid for the 2nd go around and trying to lose a few pounds. This cycle seems like it is going to be weird though. I started Sat (CD22) with just spotting and went on for 2 more days, still no real flow. The nurse said to count that is AF and go ahead and start the Clomid, but I am just worried that maybe I should wait and see what happens??? I hope that that doesnt mean that Clomid made my lining super thin??? Well, I hope that some how this will help you. I know EXACLTY how you feel. I hope that we both can soon be mommys again! Feel free to send me a private message if you need to talk, I would enjoy it!

Originally Posted by mb2009

Hi. I'm new to this but feeling so frustrated lately that I need to vent somewhere to others who can understand. People think why am I sad if I have one child, but now that I decided to have another it's frustrating and sad it's not happening. I waited late to have a child, which is probably my problem (age) as I had 3 m/c's but luckily had a son in 2007. Trying to conceive again for a year as I just turned 39 but no luck with Clomid last 2 months. I was so focused on mc's and figured well now I know what to expect and will take Progesterone and vitamins etc even though don't know if helped for sure with my son, but now can't even get to that step. I started acupuncture recently but not that into it and feel pressure with time b/c of my age, so don't want to do acupuncture and take all these herbs paying $100 a week for a year just to find out nothing. My case is of unknown origin. I have a referral to do dye xray of my uterus but it says to do it days 5 to 9 and not to have sex for 3 days after and I've been ovulating early so don't want to miss opportunity to have sex to ttc just to do a test that likely will show nothing as I was pregnant 4 times before but 3 m/c's so likely not blockage or cyst problem. My husband is doing sperm analysis this week but again I doubt it will show anything helpful. Part of me feels I should just feel lucky to have a child and not torture myself but now that I decided to have a baby I feel so sad every time I get my period like today. I saw a RE and could do IVF but worry about multiples -- if for my first I wouldn't hesitate but for my 2nd I don't know. Acupuncurists want me to stop Clomid but I'm eager to try everything possible to help me. I do ovulate so Clomid probably not useful for me but it's all my OB could offer me. I'm not ready to adopt but it's in the back of my mind though my dh prefers a biological child. This sucks! Mostly b/c all my friends are pregnant with their 2nd child (literally 6 friends) so hard to be having problems. They all had first babies when I was having mc's and it was hard to be happy for them witout being sad for myself but luckily it worked out for me before but doesn't seem to be this time round. My dh tries to be supportive but he gets frustrated with me b/c I'm in a bad mood all the time and I want to be happy for my son's sake. He's 21 months old. We also moved recently to have more space if we have a second child but now I feel what was the point. Any ideas to help me cope are appreciated. Thanks.
Marlana

[MoeyB33]

Hi Kim,
Welcome! Just curious... Were you given a diagnosis by your RE?