[tygerlilly]

So I don't want to offend anyone on here (and I may), but if the IF factor is Male, then they need time to cope with this.

When DH found out he had a ZERO count, he took it hard on the inside but okay on the outside. He was not interested in IF treatments because it ment to him at the time that "someone besides me could get my wife pregnant". Please try to think about your DH's feelings before feeling neglected. I really do not mean this in a negative way at all (it is hard to think of a nice way to say it) but it took my DH almost EIGHT YEARS before he finally agreed to try IVF. Trust me when I say that they think about it every day... it wears on them worse than a female.

It takes a very long time, and patience is key. I am not saying we are perfect... in no way are we perfect, just experianced now. We also found out very young... I was 21 and he was 22. It would be equivelent to discovering you had no female organs and would not only never be able to reproduce, but ytou could not carry either. The wound is a deep one, please give it time... once it heals your relationship will be able to withstand the test of time with some pretty honorable battle wounds.

[bostonyankee]

Holy Mackeral, you guys hit it right on the hed. I know that sometimes I feel the same way, like I a m'less than' but that there is no other place to let it out other than here. Let me assure you all though, I have felt this VERY deeply. Please do check out my thread, and I do hope that it at least helps out someone a little bit.

[SFBaygirl]

Boston, that is what these forums are for. I can only imagine how hard it would be to express these feelings to your DW or family. You can vent here all you want.

It seems like the rest of the world cannot possibly understand how we are feeling. That every baby stroller we see on the sidewalk is painful on our bad days.

I think that the most important thing for couples going through IF is time to grieve, patience on both sides of the fence and to realize that men and women handle situations very differently more often than not. Counseling is an excellent idea.

[FancysMom]

So glad I found this thread... Didn't read all the post but my issues are similar to some of the things I read. Its my first round of sheduled IUI, but had to stop due to follicles growing in the ovary with a tube that is almost 100% blocked. At least my Dr. didn't think it was a good idea to waste the money on that process this month.
She did tell me though to go ahead and take a final round of stims and then the ovidril and to have BMS for 3 days. Ok so my DH asks what the dr said and I tell him, then I get the answer..."I wish you would not have told me that" Seems the pressure of scheduled BMS gets to his head, we are unsuccessful and then were are not nice to each other and the thought of the entire process...well frustrating I do what I can to make this work, get the bad news about the follicle growth and then get hopes up just a little to have this happen...UGGG The thoughts that go through my mind