[lostandconfused]

I am soooo stressed and not sure what to do anymore...DH and I seem to fight over everything, i cry if you look at me funny...and my best friend isn't even speaking to me. I just feel lost and don't know where to turn anymore, I don't feel depressed really just helpless. So my question is how do i get through this and what can i do to stop crying?!?!?!?!? DH talks about it being hard and i know it is for him...but when he goes to work he doesnt have to be with families, babies, or pregnant women all day long, i love my job but it too is getting to be too much for me! Maybe we should have waited longer to get tested b/c i just keep thinking the first year of marriage shouldnt have to include dealing with IF...

[chantalTTC]

oh my - that is a lot to deal with in your first year of marriage! You have many stressors in your life right now, so my first piece of advice is to let yourself off the hook. It's ok to be disappointed, frustrated, angry, anxious, or whatever else you're feeling. IF is an incredibly difficult journey and you're just getting started. Hopefully it's a short and successful journey for you and you can start your family soon! In the meantime, to keep your sanity, I highly, highly, highly recommend finding a therapist who specializes in infertility. I did so about 2 years ago and it was the BEST thing I did for myself during IF. She really understood (having been through it herself) where I was coming from and it was a way for me to get off my chest all the baggage I was carrying around in between sessions. That way I didn't need to burden my dh, my friends or family so much. It was my saving grace throughout this whole nightmare. You cannot go through this alone and you do need help. I hope you find support soon. Best wishes to you my dear!