[savannah]

i know that infertility is a shared problem, but my husband doesn't want ANYONE to know that it is his problem (even family). i completely understand that but then he won't correct anyone when they make comments that it is my problem. why does that bother me? that makes me pretty selfish and insensitive, huh?

[Kit-Kat30]

First off, you are not selfish or insensitive. Second, infertility isn't an individuals problem when your in a marriage. It is a challange that you both need to tackle together.

I have been in the infertility game for over 6 years now and if I didn't have my husbands support (or something close to support) I wouldn't be able to do it. Oh and it is male factor infertility. I don't know why the treatments haven't worked, so maybe it is female factor as well.

Maybe if you ask that he say that it is a shared problem or that it is our problem, then they won't associate one person with an issue. No details need to be shared with anyone. It just shouldn't be put on any one individuals shoulders.

I hope that over time he can start to accept that you both are on the same team and one person cannot be and shouldn't be "blamed".

I wish you a safe and prosperous journey through infertility. We all are cheering you on!

[savannah]

Thank you KitKat- that makes me feel better.