[eternal]

One of my friends suggested this strategy she learned from her IF support group. It's called the 20-minute rule. Each day, you discuss IF for a maximum of 20 minutes. We set a timer, and one of us says whatever they're thinking or feeling for 10 minutes. Then, the other person has a turn.

This has helped us a lot! My husband used to feel like we never talked about anything else, and he was right- I would go on for hours.

We even take one day a week off, when we try to do something fun and not think or talk about IF at all. It's great.

[einstein]

Oh, I love this idea! What a fabulous tip to share. I wish I'd thought about it when we were going to the RE a few years ago. Now, I'm busy with the twins and I don't have much time to think about our infertility -- which is a male factor issue. In fact, I try not to talk about it at all because it still upsets me.