[SunshineState]

How does everyone else deal when their fertility treatment has failed?

I had 3 IUI's last year that failed, I took months off and focused on other things besides my fertility, and this year when I felt like I was emotionally and physically ready I tried aother IUI on a new drug to me, when it failed I felt like I crashed and burned!

I've talked with 3 different RE's in the past year and they and I agree that we should move on to IVF. I'm all for it, and ready to go, but this last IUI failure has really made me more upset than I have been in a really long time. I want and need to get over it before I go to IVF but have found it hard to get relief....what do you guys do when you need to get over a failure??? BTW - I have already been on a shopping spree, and am hitting the mall again this weekend :-) It only helps temporarily.

[dndtaylor]

Hey … I know your pain as most of us do and it sucks … literally. I’ve been through 2 IVF cycles so far and each one that doesn’t work tends to hurt that much more than the last. I’ve learned that it is okay to be sad and upset but only for so long. After about 2 weeks of being upset I have to make my self put on a happy face, smile and move on. If I didn’t then I’d be miserable for goodness knows how long. And that just isn’t fair to me or my hubby. I know that in Gods time it is going to work out, therefore I press on. Plus it keeps me going knowing DH and I will give another whirl when the time is right in our hearts. Best of luck to you, I hope that you find the peace that you are looking for before starting your IVF. And forget we are all here for you no matter what you need. Hugs and enjoy shopping!