[alabamacutie]

I took off work on yesterday for a much needed break. Upon my arrival back to the office, I begin to catch up with the office gossip that I missed from the day before. In chatting, I learn that one of my coworkers is pregnant. This is the 3rd pregnancy announcement within a couple of months, and I am fuming inside. This same coworker later comes in my office and I had to get the strength to smile and tell her congratulations. She even had the nerve to chuckle and tell me that she and her husband just decided to try and see what would happend. She got pregnant after her first month of not really trying. If she only knew what I was going through.

Later in the day, as I begin to check my emails, I get really pissed off. One of the clerical staff (who is off on maternity leave by the way) is asking for medical leave donations. As if I will never get pregnant, and have to use my own medical leave.

I had to get out of the office, so I took an early lunch. I didn't want anyone to notice that my mood had changed. And, I definitely couldn't deal with people asking me what's wrong.

So, to top my day off ......I am a social work supervisor for child protective services (how ironic). One the social workers in my unit had to place a newborn baby girl in foster care after her mom tested positive for several drugs. This baby was in the office the rest of the afternoon, and I had to look at her and hold her just wishing that I could have one of my own.

Can anyone relate to this, or am I just overacting?

Thanks for letting me vent, hopefully tomorrow will be a better day.

[jencat215]

wow what a c rappy day! I am sorry. all the customer service girls at my work have gotten pregnant or delivered this year. It is hard to deal with seeing others pg and hearing how they didn't even have to try...

vent away. anytime. that is what we are here for. I hope tomorrow is a better day for you

[prayinfor#2]

I am so sorry - that is the worst day ever! Probably way off here, but would there be any way you could foster the baby? It might keep your spirits up to nurture.

[happythoughts]

Sounds like you have had a really crappy day ! I understand the feelings that you are having. In the hospital I work in I had a 14 year old patient who was pregnant last week, and I WANTED TO SMACK HER!! She said where can I smoke, me being the loud mouth I am I said, YOU CAN'T YOUR PREGNANT and ended that conversation really quick !
I'm there with you, we may both get fired !

Lori

[alabamacutie]

prayin4#2, you have to be a licensed FP, and currently I am not. Our agency only allows you foster children that are coming from a different county agency. But that was a good thought.

[jenedens6102]

Definitely sounds like a crummy day. Thank goodness it's Friday. Where I worked before it seems that the pregnancies happened by the dozen. Once one announcement came, three more followed. It was really hard, especially when I was dying and doing everything I can and still wasn't conceiving. One of the ladies I worked with at the time was just newly engaged, not even trying and got pregnant. She counted herself blessed that it happened so quickly. If you could secretly roll your eyes I would have. Instead I excused myself to the bathroom and cried in the stall while hiding out for a little bit. It was at one of my lowest points too so it was like salt on the wound. But now I'm the baby where I work and everyone knows of the battle we've endured so they are thrilled with us. Sorry to hear about the poor little girl who has to go into foster care because of her mother. So sad what so many children endure these days.

[Teri01042008]

i can totally relate! i work in a day care center & there is a running joke that there must be something in the water because at any given time there are 3 to 4 pregnant women! i stay calm by reminding myself that my turn is coming. i'm sorry you had such a lousy day.

[faith07]

I am sorry you had a gloomy day. Maybe these coworkers of your have no idea that you're trying to have a baby. I am a social worker too, and it was really difficult working with mothers who didn't care for their babies. I cried many times while waching TV about children that were being abandoned or killed by their own parents. So i definately know the feeling. I began my journey trying to have a baby in 1990. I just had a baby girl 6 months ago. It will happen sweetheart. What helped me is that no one knew what i was going through and never shared at work with anyone. I am very private at work place because i've seen and heard many things that people think they share to remain private being shared so i just do not do it. Just keep praying God has time for all of us. I will keep you in my prayer request at Church next sunday. God Loves you.

[CryingInside]

I have had days like that! The pregnancy announcements always seem to come at the wrong time. I think you did the right thing by getting out of there. I have told pretty much every one that I work with, and those that I haven't have heard through the grapevine. I find that most people are much better about announcing pregnancies to me. My problem is that I work in a prison and I see pg women coming into visit prisoners.....now that drives me bananas! I hope you are feeling better today.