[silverbrumby]

Ouch Kathryn! Sounds like insanity in the workplace.

Tomorrow will be bad for me as I have to go for a presentation to a potential client. All day affair including sitting in rush hour. BLECH!

I dunno if I am being paranoid but I just get the feeling they are trying to stall...

Ok, so I'm bored and I redid the summary list for you all since we have so many newbies and returning ladies! Please correct any mistakes you see as some of it was guessing on my part. But hey, look at all those BFPS!!!!! Soon this will be the "single and pregnant" forum! :-D

Kathryn aka KBlythe – 35wks pg
Su – 37 wks pg
Liv – 25wks pg
Viv – Newbie! 13 wks pg…waiting on Amnio results
Deej – 5wks pg
Susan aka PeggySue – Waiting for J
Ona aka SilverBrumby – AF arrived now waiting for doctors…grr…
Jen aka Lilac – Surgery a success!! Still waiting for AF
Mindi – Waiting for AF, switching to KD
Teri –Waiting for August cycle
KuddleyGal –Waiting for August cycle. Quitting smoking! YAY!!!
Julie – NEWBIE! Failed IUIs in ’07, high FSH, deciding next step...
StylTryn –?
Becca – MIA?
Erica – MIA?
Nurse – MIA?

[Mindi_IUI]

Oh Ona, I understand your frustration. We all want to be preggers now and we can't understand why our RE's don't ge that. lol I know that we want to feel as though we are the only patient that our Dr. is treating, but unfortunately we are just aren't. I never call and ask for the Dr. as I know that reception will never put me through directly. It is protocol to have a nurse ask you why you are calling, and then if your lucky you can hold for the doctor but most likely they take a message and have him/her call you back when they are available. As a nurse I am sure you already know that's how it works. I worked the phones in a few medical offices and that is just par for the course. So, I am sure you are not getting the run-around at all, it's just that you are anxioius. The nurse or medical assistant that answers the phones should just have told you to come in for a u/s when you told her you just got AF. My office says just come in at 7:30 am on cd3. Call back tomorrow morning and say that you need to come in for your 3day u/s tomorrow (Wednesday). Last buy not least, I will give you the same advise you gave me about home insemination: It's not worth wasting the money on sperm since it is highly unllikely that it will work. O is only 14 or so days away for you. I'm sure by then all of your RE will have everything she needs and then you can have your 1st IUI. Just hang in there honey. I know you can do it.

Styltryn, So, this nasty bronchial infection has traveled over the pond, or maybe it traveled from over the pond to the states. LOL I am feeling 1000 times better. Thank goodness for pharmaceuticals

Kathryn, Sorry to hear that your last few days at work are so hectic, but in two days it will all be over.

[silverbrumby]

hi Mindi,
Thanks for your words of encouragement. Unfortunately, if I don't get in for my day 3 appointment I will have to sit this cycle out because unless the doc is planning to do unmedicated cycles (doubtful) I will have missed the day for clomid.

I plan to wait until late tomorrow afternoon and if I haven't heard back then I will call again and bug them. I really don't see why I can't go in for my three day appointment. I mean, even if they don't have everything they need it's not like I am going in to get the IUI, I'm just going in for my day 3 scan and bloodwork. I mean, I understand they HAVE to get the thumbs up from the counselor and my cancer doc before I can get pregnant but that shouldn't keep me from getting the pre-IUI tests, and with my O still two weeks away that's plenty of time to get the rest of the stuff done. *sigh*... I really do think they are stalling...not because of the phone thing, but because there is no reason to not just schedule my day 3 appointment.

Oh well...just need to breath and remember to smile when I talk to them on the phone tomorrow.

[lilac]

Su, great to hear from you! Keep us posted.

Good job on the list Ona! Great to see all those bfps at the top. I'm glad your appt went well. I totally understand you not wanting to miss this cycle when you've waited so long and you are so close. I don't see why you can't have your day 3 scan - you aren't asking to be sprogged up before you get the final ok, right? It's just a scan.

Kathryn, I'm hoping Wed comes quickly for you and you can relax a tad at work.

Deej, how you doing?

Well, I had a tremendously awful day. All my peace and tranquility from my week off is gone... always bad going back to work after a holiday, but I swear it was one calamity after another. And my assistant (yes, THAT one) feels I am being too hard on her and had a hissy fit at me. Apparently I am demanding and mean. I mean, huh? If anything I am too nice to her! Then I spent the entire afternoon trapped in a meeting that had very little relevance to me and went on FOREVER.

In other news, I suspect that I have not missed my AF after all. I was having tons of ov signs while I was away and my bbt today suggests I ovulated... now I am thinking that the bleeding I had after the surgery was in fact AF (it was totally un-AF-like, but then they said the first cycle would be). I haven't been very good about bbt or opk-ing this cycle (for the first time in something like 16 months!) so I can't tell for sure. So I think I might've missed this cycle. I'm not too upset because I would've been too late for clomid by the time my RE gave me the go ahead and I would've had to come back in the middle of my holiday for u/s and iui. So, long and short, I'm still waiting for AF!

[silverbrumby]

Yeh it's about 1/3 of our group with BFPs!!!! Can you tell I am trying to stay motivated and positive?

Jen, I'm sorry you missed AF but glad it isn't affecting plans. I had a similar experience when I had my surgery for the tumour. Hey, at least this way it'll feel like you were just waiting for one cycle instead of two. hehe.

I do have another option but not one I am really keen to pursue... since I never told my old doctor where he could stick it, I could always just go back there for my day 3. I dunno though...to me that just seems wrong. Not to mention, I seriously don't trust the guy and am angry with the care he gave and a bit bitter he made all that money off me doing my tests, so I would rather just not give him any more money.

Can't sleep because I am a stress case. I just worry that I am going to get pushed off and miss this cycle then when I finally do get in to see her, she's going to make me redo a whole bunch of tests and push me out even further. At this point, I just want to get going and try so that it doesn't build and build in anticipation. The longer I wait, the more anxious I will be, and stress is not your friend when trying to conceive. I want to get going now while I still am somewhat calm and don't have all my expectations built up. I'm afraid I'll end up having to spend 6 months to a year on the bench and by the time I finally get my turn it will have been so long that if I don't succeed I'll be completely devastated.

Anyway, just more of my rambling thoughts. Please just cross fingers for me that my doc, who seems really nice, will actually call me tomorrow and say everything is good to go and come on in!...

It's funny, because the counselor today asked "well, do you have a plan when you have this baby?" and wanted to know how I thought I'd feel...and I said, that frankly, if she was asking if I was prepared that having a baby would make me freak out over the actual responsibility that I was much more likely to freak out if I actually JUST got pregnant, because this process makes it feel like that will never happen some times and so just seeing those lines on the pee stick will be so surreal I'm liable to go snap right there and wig out. Taking care of babies I can handle. Responsibility and financial obligation, I can handle. Actually having my dreams come true...that hardly ever happens for me, so I won't know what to do if it does.

[styltryn]

Hey Ona, I think one - three tries at home insemination is worthwhile to do - if you've not tried that route b4... but they should do the 3 day appointment with at the least the scan and bloodwork - I'd also think it quite odd if they won't agree to see you for it. I think I read that for ICI at home it's actually a better rate of conception... prob'ly because the timing can be better going with your body's schedule instead of the doc's schedule! ;-) For update on me to list, I'll try IUI again in early Aug. when I o... sat out July to rest and work out & play like I really love to do in summers, especially... will use OPK to detect surge again. Need to discuss protocol w RE... such as should I try injectibles instead of clomid? or try a natural cycle? with perhaps hcG trigger to be sure the egg(s) let loose?

Here's one big for the ladies... and
another for the other 2/3 w/ , who (it seems to me) will all be cycling together in August?! I really think that means we'll have another BFP or so from Aug.!

[Deej]

Ona - sorry to read you feel the doc is giving you the run around. its an awful feeling! i hate to know you are getting anxious over it all, but totally understand. perhaps she will not have you do tests over, and all will be aok. i have my fingers crossed that it works out that you can have a go at it this cycle...
Jen - I loved reading about your vacation! how wonderful. can you post pics on the yahoo page? i would love to see where you were!
Gotta run ladies, will post more later!

[Viv]

Ona,

GOsh, could hear myself talking back in December...after 3 IUIs failed, 1 cyst just removed, and spirits as dark as December days...there are always bad days every so often...

I had several of those low spots - so much so that when I switched to IVF I was sure it wouldn't work because it was ME - yeah, right - 13 weeks pregnant!

Just keep the faith and keep at it - you know why you chose to do it, and you'll get there. Doctors are not there to sabotage you, even if it may feel that way when they seem utterly "unavailable". I normally found that when I was firm (but very polite) and conveyed it was important, I got my point through, so I either got transferred to my doctor or she called me back as soon as she could. What doesn't help is to snap even if all you want to do is smash the phone against the wall if the put you on hold (agaaain).

I never tried IUI at home, but as styltryn said, it certainly may be more agreeable (er, less disagreeable); if you feel comfortable enough doing it, why not? At least you won't feel you're losing a chance by waiting.

Deej, how's the back?

To the work-stressed (Kathryn and others) - just remember "Whatever women do they must do twice as well as men to be thought half as good? Luckily, this is not difficult."

Have a good afternoon (still morning for most of you, I guess!)

Viv

[kblythe]

Ona, for what it's worth, I echo what Viv said. Given my history of m/c, failed iuis and failed ivfs, I thought I would never, ever be pregnant. Even now, I have trouble believing that it's all going to work out, even though I have a squirmy basketball in my abdomen! Take a deep breath. Don't stress. Call your doctor and emphasize the importance of the 3-day test tomorrow. And get through your crappy meeting today.

Jen, sorry about the post-vacation work stress. One of the great things about my job is that I generally don't have post-vacation issues. It's just 3 times of year, at the end of a term of court, that things get stressful, and I never schedule a vacation around that time! Plus, I have the most experience of any lawyer in my office, so I take all of the cases that need a fast turnaround, which is every case this week! As for your assistant, I am so irritated on your behalf! She just sounds so unprofessional, and I can't stand it when women act unprofessionally in the work place. I think it reflects poorly on us as a group.

Deej, how are you feeling?

Hello to everyone else!

Kathryn.

[lilac]

Deej, yes I will post photos on the yahoo page, as soon as I manage to get them off the camera! How are you feeling? Is your back any better?

Kathryn, at least your job stress is at least predictable! I completely agree with you on the unprofessionalism. Further, my company is dominated by educated men with large egos. I stand out as an educated women in a responsible position. The few women employed by the company are predominantly in low paying, lower skilled positions and the men do not exactly respect us a group. Thus I feel it is even more important to act professionally. Suffice it to say, I am not happy with the way things went yesterday.

Ona, any progress with your doctor today?

It is a gorgeous day here - if only I was still on vacation! Oh well, off to work!

[silverbrumby]

well. I am officially benched yet again. my new doc won't be seeing me until next Tuesday and that will just be a consult for what the plan is moving forward. trying to not get upset.

[lilac]

Ona, I'm sorry to hear that. What a pain. I know how hard it is to wait (the ttc process seems to be all about the waiting). Can you stress at your appointment how you'd like to move forward and that next cycle must be a trying cycle?

I've learned that my cousin (she's 29, the baby of the family) is soon to have a lap. Not for a fertility issue, more of a painful-AF issue. Her doc has made her take a 6-week medical leave from work and he says she will need all that time to recover. Of course, she doesn't know I had a lap (and I don't want her to) and obviously my experience was vastly different than they expect hers to be. Worse, she has to come to my city for the surgery (she lives several hours away) and her wife is not even coming with her! I feel so fortunate now about my own experience.

[kblythe]

Well, dirt, Ona. I know, in the larger scheme of things, a one month delay is not the end of the world. But I am completely sympathetic to your frustration. I'm trying to think of a silver lining ..... If you get pregnant in August, you'll have a May baby, and wouldn't it be lovely to have a baby in May?

k.

[silverbrumby]

Thanks ladies! I'm just doing what I can to accept the situation and move on. I def don't want to see my old RE cuz he is a (word I can't say on a public forum). I am just going to try not to sweat it. I may do an ICI at home using the California bank because it is really inexpensive but I'd need to get a doctor appt with my reg doc so he can fill out all the application forms. we'll see.Thanks again ladies for your encouragement and stories. it really helps me keep my perspective and keep my hopes up.Hugs to all!