[Deej]

Wow! Thank you ladies for sharing your stories! I get so inspired by reading other people's experiences, how they got to be where they are, etc... It really keeps me going.
Kathryn: I too was hoping to find a known donor who was narcisistic enough to want offspring that he had no responsibility for! No such luck, and I have read some not so lucky stories regarding known donors! I am so excited that you get to experience pregnancy and motherhood. I would think letting go of the dream of a bio child was difficult, but like you said, the dream of having a child, bio or not, is what is so strong!
Squeezan: I knew a bit about your story... I loved how you are receiving support from family and friends. You are so very brave! In my opinion, all women who decide to become mothers are brave, but especially the ones who decide to go it alone! Thank you for sharing the feelings of being pregnant. I so look forward to experiencing it myself.
I am on my 4th IUI, and hoping for a pregnancy. From what I have read about adoption (and now Kathryn's experience w/embryo adoption) it is not easy for singles to go that route... But I trust that if one door is shut anoher will open..
Thank you again ladies, single or not, who give all of us the support needed!

[jencat215]

I think it really sucks that singles have so much trouble with trying to adoption. There are so many kids out there that need good homes. Why does having a spouse make a home any better? In some cases, it doesn't!

[Sarah_84]

Hi, just thought I'd pop in and say that you girls are great! I hope you get your forum!

[Deej]

I just posted something and my screen went blank, now I am not sure if it went thru...
Oh well! I am actually leaving the house! After my forehead surgery on Tuesday, I went to work on wed for 1/2 day and noticed I was getting swollen... Thursday I worked 3 hours in the morning and realized the swelling was getting worse! So, I have not been out of the house except to visit the doc yesterday! Cabin Fever! I look freaky but who cares!

[alleykag]

I have never seen this topic on here before but I guess I can join the group.
Here's my story. I got married about 3 1/2 years ago and shortly before had surgery for endometriosis and was told I had a "very small window to get pg. and i better get busy." I started my marriage while being on depo lupron for the first six months. It was rough. We immediately did the clomid and natural methods to conceive with no success. We then went the iui route with one chemical pg. I had a d/c during the 7 iui's for uterine polyps and never was the same afterwards (funky periods and small lining). We progressed to ivf and did 3 rounds and attempted 5 really but 2 got cancelled for different reasons. NO LUCK with any of it. My marriage was never "wonderful" but there was always an excuse for the various problems we had.
We separated this summer and the divorce will be final in Jan. I made the decision back in Aug. to follow through with a specialist for Asherman's Syndrome. I got that dx last April. Well, in Oct. I flew to California and had surgery to repair my uterus and just got the word this month that things look much better and I can try again to conceive. But, now i will be divorced and attempting on my home. I feel a lot like what most of you have written. I have complete family and friend support and it's a big help. I should be trying this month with donor sperm and I so hope it works. I am 39 and never thought I would be in this position. I love children and have always believed I would be a mother. I know I can do it on my own but it's scary. I'm glad to read other women have made the decision that I have to pursue it by ourselves.
Now that I am alone and a little more relaxed, I am hoping it will work. So, there's the story.
Thanks ya'll for reading.
Kim

[Deej]

A big huge welcome to you! I am so glad you are able to connect with women in similar situations! All the women on this forum are great, I have learned so much and received so much support... It has made me feel not so alone on this journey! Even with supportive friends and family, most people who are not currently ttc do not understand, but the women here do. I wish you the best on your first round in January! What a wonderful way to start the new year! Thank you for sharing your story, it will make it easier for the next newbie!

Originally Posted by alleykag

I feel a lot like what most of you have written. I have complete family and friend support and it's a big help. I should be trying this month with donor sperm and I so hope it works. I am 39 and never thought I would be in this position. I love children and have always believed I would be a mother. I know I can do it on my own but it's scary. I'm glad to read other women have made the decision that I have to pursue it by ourselves.
Now that I am alone and a little more relaxed, I am hoping it will work. So, there's the story.
Thanks ya'll for reading.
Kim

[lilac]

Kim, !

Glad you joined us and thanks for sharing your story. Wow, you have been through it. I have my fingers crossed for you in January!

[dherbert]

Just wanted to say, I think all of you women are remarkable! For you to be going at this alone, shows a great strength within, and proves that you are strong enough to handle anything thrown your way. You all will be awesome Mothers!!!

[kblythe]

Hey y'all.

I've really enjoyed reading your stories. I went today with a single friend of mine for her first ever iui. I'll try to get Jenn to join this thread, too!

Although I am sure it will be hard ... especially in the first year ... to be a single parent, I suspect that there are some hidden benefits! I'm really opinionated on child-rearing, and it will be nice not to have someone with a different opinion sticking their oar in! Plus, I know a lot of my friends' husbands (and even my brother) are not the most helpful of fathers. They seem to think that it's women's work to raise children. Well, since I'm doing it on my own, I'm prepared to do it by myself. But if I had a husband who didn't help, I would be SO IRRITATED! My friend Shannon has a husband, who is actually one of the better dads, but he once made the mistake of referring to watching them as "baby-sitting." Shannon told him, "since you are the father, it's actually called 'parenting.'"! He hasn't made that mistake again!

Hope all of you are doing well.

Kathryn.

[Deej]

Danielle: THANK YOU! I can always count on you for some words of wisdom and encouragement!
Kathryn, I too know some wonderful dads and some not so wonderful dads... Whenever I meet one, I go out of my way to say how impressed I am and how important good fathers are.... But on the flip side, I can understand how men get confused about what their roles are! My best friend is married with two children, and her husband still expects her to be a mother full time and work full time! I guess balance is hard to find anywhere. But I too would be so irritated if I had a husband who did not help - well, I guess that is something I won't have to worry about! For centuries women have been responsible for child rearing, even if they were married. Men did not wake up and help feed or change babies, dont get me wrong. I love evolved men! Just have not found one yet! If I have a son, I plan on raising him to affectionate, caring, empathetic... and hopefully when he grows up and marries, he will be the exact kind of father I would have wanted for him!
Best of luck to your friend who had her first IUI! How exciting! I am also a member of SMC, she may be interested in that as well...
LILAC: best of luck on the beta!

[lilac]

Kathryn - Hope your friend joins us!

On the beta front, I went for the test (no results yet), but I POASed a this morning (at 5:30AM I couldn't wait any longer!). No sign of AF yet, though...

[Deej]

I read your other post regarding the poas! I have hope that it does not mean 100% you are not pregnant... You never know! Regardless, you know we are here to offer support and encouragement thoughout the process!
Merry Christmas Eve!
a question: are the 2ww's any different on clomid? i posted earlier but got no hits

[lilac]

Well, I have never actually made it to beta before AF before, so that's something!

[Deej]

If you have never made it this far either, then it might be a possible!! Will your doctor call you back today?

[lilac]

Normally they call back the same day if you go to the lab before noon - but the lab's on a skeleton crew and my RE's office is closed... so I'm not really expecting to hear today. I'm going to my parents' this afternoon, but I'll be checking my messages and I'm bringing some sticks so I can POAS tomorrow if AF doesn't come...