[ginalfish]

I'm at a loss. Can anyone help? I have PCOS and present all the symptoms but one. I have endometriosis. Over the past three years, I've started getting migraines. Recently, I've been breaking out in hives on a daily basis. My husband told me tonight that I'm a hypochondriac. He said it seems like there is always something wrong with me. I don't complain half as much as I could about any of it. I rarely (if ever) talk about the embarrassing PCOS symptoms, my ovarian pain has decreased significantly since my surgery last September, and I still go to work and clean my house and attend gatherings when I'm dealing with a migraine. I think the itchy hives bother him more than they bother me. Did he call me that because he thinks I'm fabricating all of it? Or is he just sick of having a wife who doesn't have perfect health? Can anyone relate?

[jencat215]

Sweetie, hives are a physical symptom, not a 'in your head' thing. Is it possible that you are having an allergic reaction to something? Have you ever had allergy testing done? And migraines can be debilitating. This is not in your head. I would go to your Dr. and have him check you out. For migraines, used to suffer from them pretty bad, but I started going to a chiropractor and I stopped having them. I highly recommend trying a chiropractor. I was a non-believer and went just because, why the hell not? What did I have to lose? But now I am a believer and migraine free.

I hope you and your DH can talk this out. You need to find out why he doesn't believe your symptoms.

[mia23]

You sound almost exactly like me sweetie. PCOS, Endo, Migraines and I like to throw a few kidney stones and a complicated gallbladder surgery in the mix too. My Dh has also said that he feels like I am always sick. My migraines are much, much better than they were even 2 years ago. I truly think that part of him did feel like it might be something I played up and a big part of it was he came from a family that was completly against taking medicine. I know it sounds kind of weird, the only thing they take is advil. I had to convince my husband to take Claritin for his allergy attacks, he was just taking advil. So it would seem strange to him that Advil wouldn't just take away a migraine (yeah right!!!). But with us part of it that helped was my husband learning about my migraines and triggers more. I have gotten migraines since I was seven years old and nothing helps but treating them with a med called Zomig. Nothing preventitive, have tried everything. Well anyway once he understood the pain I was dealing with and the fact that I still managed to work full time, plan a wedding, and graduate with honors he had a little more respect for me. Please go to the doctor, like Jen said migraines are debilitating. As far as the PCOS and Endo he knows that is something completly out of my control and that dealing with IF has crushed my soul. But I did have a bout of kidney stones and most recently my gallbladder and appendix removed and had to have blood transfusions and an extended hospital stay for internal bleeding (tell your Dh that I got you beat). Talking to Dh about it and getting it out in the open is what had to be done with us. I told him that I dont enjoy being this young with this many ailments. I cant control it and you have to understand that I need your support now more than ever so I can get thru this. And I am not always going to be sick forever. I think us both reaching the understanding that what I was going thru was temporary and that we would get thru it really helped us both to get thru the hard times.

This past illness was really difficult on me because I had started taking Metformin, eating better, losing weight, and really feeling good. My PCOS was getting under control and then I hit a major roadblock. But I am grateful that I was getting in better shape b/c it has made my recovery from the complications a lot better. I met with my surgeon today and she said in 2 weeks I have recovered to the point another patient would be at at 6 weeks.

Anyway sorry I am starting to babble. Please see doc about migraines and talk to Dh. You will get thru this rocky time and we will have BFP's. Good luck girl!!!

[ginalfish]

Thank you both for your support. We talked last night, but I ended up feeling worse rather than better. He said he's just frustrated and he took his frustrations out on me. I apologized profusely for not giving him what he needs - a baby mostly. He told me that my ailments are inconvenient. No sh*t. I haven't chosen IF issues. I haven't chosen pain. I told him that i'd go if he wanted to find someone else who could give him a child. He hesitated and asked me if that's what I wanted. I want a family - a healthy family. I want him to understand, rather than just be inconvenienced by me. ug.

[braveface27]

Hiya

This is weird - when I was 14 I randmly broke out in hives one day, over the years it got a lot worse, to the point where I was admitted to hospital and tried every tablet going to try and stop my skin boiling up 3-4 times per week. Now aged 27 I have it under control and only get a breakout about once of twice a week. I was also diagnosed as a PCO sufferer about 3 years ago and had never tied the two together - maybe there is some link??
I am sure my husband thinks I like to wake up clawing at my skin which feels like it is on fire at 3am just so I can annoy him. He lost patience with my hives a lot of years ago. Have you had your hives looked at? It may be that you suffer with Urticaria.
Good luck!