[Shauntae]

I'm sitting here crying because I think I may start my period today, and because we lost our first baby at 21 weeks, this last June.

I'm here hoping to connect with other women who understand. I'm 30 years old, the clock is ticking...

[christina_s]

Shauntae,

I am really sorry for your loss. I understand that loosing your baby at 21 weeks must be heartbreaking and that words are not enough at such difficult times.
Do you know what caused the loss? Knowing the reason will help a lot next time you are pregnant.
I am sure you will find great support in this forum.

My heart goes out to you.
Christina

[Shauntae]

Thank you for your response, it does help ease the pain a bit.

The baby had a bladder obstruction and was unable to release urine. There was little to no fluid surrounding the baby. All the urine was backed up into the kidneys. Our baby would not develope lungs. I had to have a d&e.

All the doctors say that it was nothing we did, and is very unlikely to happen again. It was not genetic. They don't really know what caused it, and said it is very rare.

I did start my period. My cycles are irregular. I am having a really bad day.

[christina_s]

Oh Shauntae,

I am reall sorry. I have lost 2 babies in early pregnancy and I can understand that losing a baby in in the second half of the pregnancy is really bad.
Don't loose hope. You are still young and next time you are pregnant you will be considered high risk and be followed more closely by your doctors. I am sure it will not happen again and it is a good thing you were able to get pregnant. And about your cycles being irregular it is not a big problem, people with worse problems have babies now (including myself)
Next time everything will be fine. If you need to pm me when you want to talk please do. I know you are going through a hard time and need support.
As an advice from someone who has been there: Please take care of yourself, you've been through a lot. Try to make baby steps and don't loose your hope. It will happen

Big Hugs,
Christina

[chantalTTC]

I just wanted to say I'm sorry to hear you're going through this tough time. I wish I had something enlightening to add. I'm glad you have answers; it does sound like it wouldn't happen a second time so that should give you some comfort. Take care of yourself...

[hopin4baby]

I'm so sorry for your lose. I delivered Triplets at 23 week and lost the Trio shortly after they were born. We are here for you. I was able to get pregnant and I have a 2 and half month old.

[dreamofbaby]

Dear Shauntae,

I am very sorry for your lose and I can sympathize. On Sept. 7th I gave birth to my twin girls at 23 weeks and 5 days. For three days I was in labor and in terrible pain. Finally, I was told that I had an infection and that it was causing my labor. At 4:43 in the morning I gave birth to my first daughter. She weighed 15 oz. My second was born 1 hour later; weighing 1.2 pounds. They both died an hour later. I never got to hold them alive.
I understand the pain you are feeling. Life has changed forever. I feel fine sometimes and other times, I just want to die. I waited so many years to get pregnant and my pregnancy was a miracle. Now I think it will never happen again. My feelings are all over the place; probably like yours are. Having a lose is something that never heals, you just learn to function with your new reality of that lose.
If you ever need to talk, drop me a line. Sometimes it's just good to vent about your feelings.

Take care and don't lose faith! God has a plan!

Cheryl

[shanna0618]

I am very sorry for your loss. I loss my son at 21 weeks due to incompetent cervix over 2 years ago. Please be gentle with yourself and try not to rush into TTC so soon. You need time to heal emotionally and your body needs time to heal as well. My thoughts are with you during this very painful time.

[mommytoangeleden]

The same just happened to me. My pregnancy was going along fine. We had just gone for the 20 week ultrasound and hubby and I were so happy that we were having a girl. Not even a week later I was in the hospital 5 cent. dialated with bludging water bag. Dr. successfully put in the cerclage without breaking water. Two days later I developed an infection and went into labor. My daughter was born sleeping.
I feel so sad sometimes because there was nothing wrong with my baby. My body just went into labor.

[hafhiba1]

I am so sorry to hear Aboit anyone loss. I know how hard it is. I ve lost my baby girl at 22 weeks due to a blood cord accident on April 2007. Since then I am trying to conceive but no success. I am 38 and soon will 39 (December 24). I am going for iui next month. Wish me luck. I hope each one of you holds her baby in the arms soon.
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me 38
dh 38
03/ 2002 bfp (C Section at 28 weeks due to high BP) a girl now 7 and healthy

04/2007 BFP (lost baby at 22weeks due to blood cord accident)
next month going for iui
blood work
fsh 9.2
prolactine 5.4
low amh 0.4
progesterone test was good last Friday
Hafida