[Aimes26]

On Wednesday night, I suffered a m/c of our 12 week old baby. It was a huge shock b/c that morning I had had an u/s and the baby looked perfect, measuring right on target with a h/r of 162...that evening I began cramping and spotting, went into the ER and had a full blow, awful m/c on the table. It was the worst night of my entire life...DH & I are mourning this loss but I am still looking towards the future.

It took us 2 years and 9 months to conceive this miracle. We got lucky on our 5th round of injectables with timed intercourse. I'm dealing with my OB right now b/c I was released from my RE at 12 weeks, but I'm thinking I need to meet with my RE to discuss how this affects our protocol.

I generally never got AF on my own before, so will they induce a cycle? Will we be able to do injectables again right our of the gate? Is my risk for multiples even higher then b/c of the m/c? Do you ladies think I should just schedule a consult with my RE to figure out where we go from here once my healing is complete?

Any answers or input would be greatly appreciated. Thanks and sorry to everyone else here for all their losses, this just sucks.

[MrsM]

Aimes26 - I am so so sorry for your loss. We just lost our 18 week old son on 10/2 after losing his twin at 12 weeks as well. I know how painful this is for you and your DH.

We met with our RE last week because I didn't want to waste time if there was something we could start sooner rather than later. Just like my OB, he said we have to wait until I start my next cycle which can be anywhere from 28 - 90 days, and in our case a second cycle so he can evaluate my uterus and fibroids. In your case, perhaps the dr can prescribe something for you to help bring on a period. Part of that is because it takes time for the hormone levels to reset, and your uterus needs to get back to its regular size to be ready for another baby. Plus, you need time to heal emotionally, although speaking from my own experience, all I wanted to do from the moment I knew we lost him, was to be pregnant again.

Above all, do not give up hope, and do allow yourselves time to grieve your loss and although it doesn't feel like it right now, there will be happier times ahead for you.

[DRB]

I am so sorry for your loss. 8 weeks was tough, 12 weeks has to be even worse. I have done better after my 2nd miscarriage due to the fact I have waited. I don't think I allowed myself to heal after the first and wanted to do " a quick replacement". everyone is different, but I do know it takes our bodies some time to get back to normal. Hormones especially. You are in my prayers at the really tough time. I really started to feel back to normal last month, back to my old way of life and being "normal". We are probably doing iVF with PGD for my last try in a few months. I have to always take a deep breath, take a step back and realize I can only do so much the majority of it is in Gods hands.

I would for sure schedule a consult with the Re to map out a plan. One that will give you some kind of plan to look forward too and Two it will allow all the what ifs to be answered. Stay with the RE. I think they will let your hormones run its course and if you don't get AF in their "time frame" they will induce it. Just my opinon though.

Take care,
Denise

[christina_s]

Aime,

I am so sorry for your loss I know how devastating a miscarriage can be...This is what I learned from my mistakes and I can offer as advice:
1. Take time to heal both emotionally and physically.
2. If it is possible try to find out why did this happen: Have you done a karyotype to the baby? I wish I had done one to the babies I lost. It is very important to know whether you lost a chromosomatically abnormal baby or a normal one.
3. Discuss with your RE if he thinks that next time you are pregnant you can try adding baby aspirin, prenatal vitamins and folic acid maybe progesterone too?..they help so much..
Just my two cents...

I hope you find your answers soon
I will be thinking of you