[sckooshy1]

.. but I have so many issues in my head. My DD is 4 &1/2, I am 26, and my DH is 30. In March 2006 we decided to ttc. In March 2007, I sufferred my 3rd consecutive m/c that year. We decided to give it a rest.

Well, I attend community college, either at night when my husband's home, or early morning when my DD is in pre-school. School is not easy for me, so I only take a couple classes at a time, and my DH and DD are very demanding of my attention. I always wish my DD had a sibling to play with because she is constantly begging me to play with her. Which I know I should appricaite more.

Anyway. I know it would be so much easier if I continued just taking my classes so that I can get through and into the difficult nursing program, because my DD would be in school and I would have that freedom. But at the same time - we should have already had another baby! We still want a baby! We agreed to try again after I got through my Chemistry class. But I am anxious to start now. I am worried that I will continue to have losses and keep having to wait. I am worried that I should wait til I am finished with school because we cannot really afford another, but really want one anyway.

Please let me know what you think - what you have dealt with - and what you did to get through it. Anyone?

[frymomma2b]

hEY GIRL I AM ON THE SAME PATH YOU ARE. I am attending nursing school and i have a 4 yr old boy. I know exactly the delima you are facing. We can afford it but its not like we have alot of money to spare i just mean i know we would make it work. we are sooooo ready for another and so is my son. I am taking 4 classes this semester and really thinking about how hard it will be if we have another but it is my and my husbands hearts desire so you just have to have faith that if it is what you want you will make it work. Best hopes for you and yours

lorry

[jenedens6102]

Do you know why you've experienced three consecutive miscarriages? It sounds like that is something to look into prior to trying again. Losses are very difficult and I'm sure that experiencing them while also attending college can be even more difficult. It doesn't seem that you have an issue conceiving as much as carrying, so I don't think that waiting too long to try again will be the issue but rather keeping the pregnancy. I think it's worth keeping on track with your schooling and getting the medical attention (running tests, etc) that you need before trying again. You will give your child a sibling, I just know it.

[sckooshy1]

So far, the blood tests that I have taken have shown nothing to cause them. The only other tests would be like a sperm analysis and stuff a specialist would do, but we don't have coverage for a specialist.

Thank you both of you for your replies. It's also nice to hear someone else is dealing with going to school, a 4 yr old , and a husband too! I also work weekends at a desk job. It's like my weekend prison.

I keep being told to do what's right for me.. and that I will figure it out and stuff, and I should keep on with finishing school, and all that. But I'm sure you could all agree with me that it is very difficult to ignore the feelings of wanting a baby, a bigger family, and the love of being pregnant and the joy it all brings in life.
I am almost 27. The question? Should school wait? Or should my family wait? Guess I'll just have to be lost.

[Mom2MandyandTristan]

Hello Everyone
I am new to this site. I came across it by accident but I am glad I did because I see have something in common with alot of you, we lost babies. I too became pregnant a few months after we lost our baby girl (Madison Elizabeth in July 2006) and in June of 2007 gave birth to a very healthy boy. We almost lost him 3 times (a threatened miscarriage at 15 weeks, I have an incompetent cervix which was opening with no signs this was happening so I needed a cerclage at 18 weeks, and started pre-term labor at 20 weeks and needed to go on a steriod drip). I know about being on pins and needles till they are safe in your arms and I just wanted to maybe give you a tiny bit of comfort hearing my story and knowing it can be yours too. Anyway, my hubby hadn't finished and was actaully on a break when we found out we were pregnant again and he is ok with putting it on hold until the baby is bigger. You have to do what you heart tells you, whatever makes you happy. For my hubby it was having a baby now (it's his first, my daughter is from a previous relationship). Hope this helps!!

Jessica
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