[tricia08]

Let me just share with you a little piece of what I have to deal with on a daily basis....

My husband was previously married. He has 2 children, my DSS (14) and my DSD (10), both of whom we have had custody of for 4 months now. I'll just say that the mother is not quite all together, and truly can't bring herself to put the kids first when she had custody of them. The ex and I DO NOT get along!! I have tried in the past, but she is kniving (sp?) and has done nothing but cause problems. But, I love having kids here. It is not without its trials or tribulations, but what in life is that isn't worth it, right? They are great kids!!

So anyway, we find out the beta was positive yesterday, and DH and I wanted to wait to tell the kids, but a friend of ours spilled the beans by accident when she called my husbands phone to say congratulations and my DSS answered the phone. Needless to say, they sound alot alike since DSS hit puberty (haha...TMI).

Ofcourse, I knew that DSD would be calling her mother that night to say goodnight, and would be telling her.

Sooooo, I wake up this morning, and look on the computer and find this email to DH from the b*tch.....

"Is that what you really called me for yesterday was to give me the nausiating news? Just think of all of those sleepless nights, poopy diapers and bottles not to mention another 18 years and you will have another one to put through college....lucky you, so much for early retirement. So when did you have the reversal? When is the bundle of joy due to arrive? At least you will have built in babysitters, lol. I almost feel sorry for you because you probably want this one just as much as you wanted your first one.....3 kids guess you will need to buy a bigger house sooner rather then later..yikes......I get light headed just thinking about it all. I wish you all the best and I want to thank you for making me realize just how happy I am to be me!"

Do you believe this sh*t! I am so mad, steam is coming out of my ears. What right does she have? She is soooo pathetic. I want to write her an email so bad and say something to the fact that it's none of her darn business what we do. The fact that she actually took the time to write this email shows how truly pathetic she really is!! I am beyond words right now.

How should I handle this? How should DH handle this? I wanna go to her house and punch her I am so fed up with her. This process is stressful enough without her putting in her two cents and making it more stressful.

UUUUUGGGGGGHHHHHH!

What am I going to do?

,
Tricia

[tracilynn]

Originally Posted by tricia08

Let me just share with you a little piece of what I have to deal with on a daily basis....

My husband was previously married. He has 2 children, my DSS (14) and my DSD (10), both of whom we have had custody of for 4 months now. I'll just say that the mother is not quite all together, and truly can't bring herself to put the kids first when she had custody of them. The ex and I DO NOT get along!! I have tried in the past, but she is kniving (sp?) and has done nothing but cause problems. But, I love having kids here. It is not without its trials or tribulations, but what in life is that isn't worth it, right? They are great kids!!

So anyway, we find out the beta was positive yesterday, and DH and I wanted to wait to tell the kids, but a friend of ours spilled the beans by accident when she called my husbands phone to say congratulations and my DSS answered the phone. Needless to say, they sound alot alike since DSS hit puberty (haha...TMI).

Ofcourse, I knew that DSD would be calling her mother that night to say goodnight, and would be telling her.

Sooooo, I wake up this morning, and look on the computer and find this email to DH from the b*tch.....

"Is that what you really called me for yesterday was to give me the nausiating news? Just think of all of those sleepless nights, poopy diapers and bottles not to mention another 18 years and you will have another one to put through college....lucky you, so much for early retirement. So when did you have the reversal? When is the bundle of joy due to arrive? At least you will have built in babysitters, lol. I almost feel sorry for you because you probably want this one just as much as you wanted your first one.....3 kids guess you will need to buy a bigger house sooner rather then later..yikes......I get light headed just thinking about it all. I wish you all the best and I want to thank you for making me realize just how happy I am to be me!"

Do you believe this sh*t! I am so mad, steam is coming out of my ears. What right does she have? She is soooo pathetic. I want to write her an email so bad and say something to the fact that it's none of her darn business what we do. The fact that she actually took the time to write this email shows how truly pathetic she really is!! I am beyond words right now.

How should I handle this? How should DH handle this? I wanna go to her house and punch her I am so fed up with her. This process is stressful enough without her putting in her two cents and making it more stressful.

UUUUUGGGGGGHHHHHH!

What am I going to do?

,
Tricia

Gosh - that is tough. I personally (as hard as it will be) would ignore it. If you or DH replies I think it will just welcome further banter. Sounds like she is really jealous. Just smile around her and act like it doesn't bother you... that is the ultimate payback - that will eat her up more than a nasty reply will. *just smile at her * big smiles and breathe through it.

CONGRATS on your BFP!!! I personally cant wait for poopy diapers and sleepless nights

[Lisag]

Ditto. Try to ignore her. She sounds like an evil person. Enjoy your moment and stay far away from her. She is so jealous!! Congrats!

[embarazada]

Success is the best revenge.
Don't EVER let her see you sweat.
Definitely don't give the kids anything negative to report back to mom. Otherwise this fire will fed upon itself indefinitely.
So sorry about her reaction.

[Neta]

Of course I am the 1 that would go at her given the chance, but I think what the other ladies said is true. She is hella jealous of u, ur probably younger than she is and her now ex is still in the baby making business in which it doesn't include her, she probably thought she would be the only one that could claim baby mama LOL..... so just ignore her and smile, but if she gets out of line get her, also DH needs to address this so that she knows she doesn't think she is also running ur household.
Good luck.
Neta

[cmlo575]

I would ignore it.
I wouldn't read emails from her. It will only give you stress that you do not need at this happy time.

[ally]

agreed, just ignore her. The only purpose of her email is to get a rise out of you. Be the bigger person, enjoy your bfp and ignore her, she sounds like a "sad" person.

[alisa]

Agreed. Ignore her the best you can. If nothing else, do it for the kids...you'll be setting the better example than her. She is just lashing out.

[frymomma2b]

OMG! Girl i would be inraged as well! HOWEVER I agree with the ladies ignore the rest like you never read it. She will be squirming where as if you respond she will have gotten to you like she wanted. Believe it or not it is painted in jealousy alll over it!!!! I am sure she never thought that anyone else would have the privilage of having children with your dh. You know what i mean. It was the one thing she thought she had that you wouldnt. So she is just upset and being a complete B**CH . If she is pretending that she feels sorry for you it is so not working...she feels sorry for her self and the fact that she had to state that she was happy being who she is only that much more clarifies that she is not happy with who she is. So let misery be alone because you know what they say MISERY LOVES COMPANY and its so true DONT BE HER COMPANY. Enjoy your bfp !!!

[hopeful1230]

I know its hard to ignore her but this is your time for you and your DH to enjoy. Of course she is jealous you have something she had, her family. But what you and your DH need to do is expalin to the children not to tell their mother what goes on in our home because it none of her concern.

I have an ex DH with a new wife who had 2 more children with her. I had to explain the same thing to my boys and they understood.

I hope this little advice helps.

Congrats on your and enjoy your next nine months.

[mss2069]

Well clearly she is just enraged with jealousy. I would find it extremely difficult to ignore that email. But right now isn’t the time for you to be stressing out. I would ignore her, just like all the other women have said. However, if the temptation is just too great to just let it go (which it would be for me as well) I would just try to be so nice, saying that you’ve never seen DH and the kids so happy and everybody is over the moon about the baby…You know what they say “kill her with kindness”. But with that said the best thing is to just let it go bc you don’t need the stress right now. You just have to tell yourself that she is just jealous, that sall it is.

Good luck!!

[vinjosmom]

As hard as it is I would ignore her too. Kill her with kindess. That always ticks people off more anyway.

[kensbaby93]

Wow!!! I dont know what you should say or do. But what a b**ch!!!!

[Murphette]

I so agree with the others. If you give into your first instinct and blast her -- you're just enabling her. She will know she got to you which is all she really wants. You need lots of happy, positive vibes for yourself and that beautiful baby snuggling in your tummy. Remember, she's the one who has lost -- her DH, her children, etc. -- don't let her nasty attitude drag you down. I'd set my email up to put her email right in the spam box and never read anything else from her.

[Journey423]

Don't even respond - it's not worth it. You've come too far and do not need the added stress. Let DH deal with it and you stay out of it - meaning, speak your mind to him only.

The best way to respond is to thank her for her congratulations and move on. She's not going anywhere so you'll have to figure out how the 2 of u can deal w/her w/out allowing her to affect "your" world. Let her be miserable by herself.