[wishing]

I don't know which day I will be transferring this time, since I just had my ER today. However, when we last met with our RE, she said she wants to push for a 5dt instead of a 3dt like we did last time.

I am kind of freaking out that none of my embies will make it to a 5dt! We only have 9, and I don't know the fert. report yet.

Has anyone else had the same fear? Am I the only weirdo worried about this?? Does anyone have any good 5dt stories to make me feel better? Please share if you do! Thanks in advance!

[Mama2Caden]

I worried about this too, and we only had 7 embies. At least 6 made it to 5 day and we transferred 2 with 4 to freeze, so my worry was for nothing. I know worrying is easy to do. hang in there. It will all work.

[jerseyjandj]

i was suppose to have a 5 day transfer ... so on day 5 we got ready and no call rom re so we called him .... he called back later that day and said to be on call needless to say ....he wanted to wait one more day he said that they were great we transfered 2 6 day blast ...one was evening hatching out of his lil zona .... needless to say it worked .....good luck i know its tough

[historyteach]

i was freaked out during both times, afraid that they wouldn't make it. although, i have seen different reports on here, my RE has tried to convince me that i will have a better chance with a 5dt. good luck and i hope that everything works out for you

[lizzie518]

We will probably have to have a 3 day transfer and I was really upset about it. I would love to have a 5 day transfer, because statistically, your odds are better. I'm sure your RE wouldn't hold out for 5 days unless he thought a good portion of the embies would make it. If you want some reassurance about 5 day being more successful, go to the thread I started recently that was about 3 and 5 day transfers and multiples and follow Lawyerlady's link in her response. It will take you to some stats that will definitely make you feel better.

[Kimmyblueiis]

I did a 5 day - transferred 2 - had twins Worked out perfectly for us. My RE says the 5 day is definitely the ideal.
Hugs
Kimmy

[Christa]

I too have been worried about whether my embabies can make it to day 5. I guess that is why I 'wanted' a 3 day..just because I'm scared that some won't make it to 5 days. I have come to understand that 5 day might be a little better, but now I start this whole new worry. If only 3 make it, will I put them all back? Obviously I wouldn't freeze just one....geez...the things that go through my mind and make me worry are so numerous.

[lizzie518]

Christa -
You actually could just freeze one. I've seen people on their second round of IVF (I'm sure you will be pregnant and another round would be to have even more babies) use a combination of fresh an dfrozen embies. For example, if they are unsure whether to transfer 2 or 3, they might transfer 2 good fresh embryos and also their frozen as they are usually not as hearty but give some additional chance. There is soooo much to fret over in IVF isn't there?

[BabySteps]

I had a day 5 transfer. On day 3 there were 10 good embryos, day 4 many stopped dividing and on day 5 we were only left with 3 blasts. I freaked out that the others did not make it. The ones they transferred were so strong they all stuck and are now growing into strong babies!!! I thought afterwards how lucky we were that we did not have a 3 day transfer with 2 or 3 embryos out of the 7 that did not make it.

Good luck!

[futuremom]

I think its normal to worry about every aspect of your treatment no matter what it is. My re wants to do a three day transfer and Im worried because I feel like five is better. If she were doing five Id be worried they wouldnt make it and wish she were doing three. SOOOO much to worry about with ivf. Just try and trust your re, and I will follow my own advice

[lizzie518]

Originally Posted by futuremom

I think its normal to worry about every aspect of your treatment no matter what it is. My re wants to do a three day transfer and Im worried because I feel like five is better. If she were doing five Id be worried they wouldnt make it and wish she were doing three. SOOOO much to worry about with ivf. Just try and trust your re, and I will follow my own advice

You absolutely nailed it. I think it's normal to second guess every decision because the decisions are monumental, carrying consequences that literally last a lifetime. The key is to trust your RE, but I don't take my own advice nearly as consistently as I should.