[mimosa72]

Hi everyone!

So, it appears that I am pregnant. Now what? I have seen in many of your signatures how many there are and how many have you have been on such tough long roads. When are you in the clear? When you are counting fingers and toes? After 3 month testing and 4-D ultrasounds? It seems like its a never ending, "and then the next test." Meaning, beta 1, beta 2, beta 3, scan 1, scan 2, scan 3, 3 month scan ...........

I just see how easy it is for things not to stick or go well, I don't want to be pessimistic and worrying this whole time, but we are scared to get our hopes up!

Prayers and best wishes to all that are here.

[Roxane]

You know what? I was a basket case when I first found out I was pregnant. I was so worried about whether it would work, whether I'd have an etopic or a miscariage, but then I just decided that you always worry no matter what stage your'e in. Now that I am past the scary miscarriage stage, I worry about preterm labor. Then I will worry about the babies after they are born- are they a healthy weight, can they breathe on their own, am I feeding them enough, is anyone holding them going to pass a cold? Im sure when they're toddlers I will worry about them going to school and making friends and their safety??? As mothers, the best advice given to me was- The worrying NEVER goes away! So I decieded I am just going to soak up every ounce and minute of this entire pregnancy and you should too. Try to relax and enjoy the ride- I say be "cautiously optimistic". Congrats BTW!!!

[tracilynn]

Rox is right... you just trade one worry for the next. Just try to enjoy it whatever stage you are in! Congrats on your pregnancy!!

[mimosa72]

Yeah - and YOU HAVE TRIPLETS!!!! CONGRATS!!!!!

I told my husband maybe when the kid is 5 years old?

I just don't want to take things for granted!!!!!

[Roxane]

2 Follies? Hey- maybe you will have twins!!!!!

[MrsWog]

I was already a "professional worrier" and getting pregnant just amped it up 100 notches! Now that I'm a mommy, I don't think I'll ever go another day of my life without worrying! But it's all totally worth it!

When I first got pregnant, I had someone tell me that I shouldn't tell anyone too soon, b/c it might not "stick" since we'd done IVF. But, then I thought, if something were to go wrong, I would want the support of my family and friends. You shouldn't let any worry keep you from celebrating something you have worked so long to achieve!!!

Congratulations!!

[MissKris]

You have such a nice high beta - so did I, and I trusted that everything would be okay. So far, it has! There will always be risk and worries, but remember that most pregnancies end up just fine. Relax and enjoy!

For me, I began to relax after seeing the heartbeat. That's hurdle one. Then, when I got tons of morning sickness, I read that that was a good thing, and I relaxed even more. After the Nuchal Screening, which takes place after 11 weeks, I am totally relaxed. All of the organs that needed to be there were there, and the little bugger has four limbs and a healthy heartbeat. So now, I don't worry at all.

[infertilitynovice]

I think Roxane pretty much said it all. You could very well spend your entire pregnancy worrying, even worrying about worrying too much like I did at first, or you can choose to take each day/test as it comes. The sad reality is that something could happen to that little babybean, but there's also a very good chance that everything will be fine.

Today you are pregnant. You are growing an entirely new being inside of your body and what a blessing that is. I would highly recommend that you take a few breaths when you are starting to feel anxious, call your doctor when there is cause, but generally just enjoy the fact that you are on the road to becoming a mommy to someone.

Good luck to you and I hope your pregnancy is long and uneventful.

[kensbaby93]

Try not to worry. Being PG is so special. I know its hard but try your best to just enjoy everything. I had a last year so this PG was very scary for me. I did not really sit back and start enjoying myself till I hit the 2nd trimester. We told people later this PG. If I could do it all over again I would tell people the day we found out. Like PP said if something were to go wrong you would want all the support you can get.
Your betas are strong. I would say once you see get to see the heart(s) beating you can relax, chances are everything is going to be ok.
Congrats and Good Luck!!!

[nursesunshine]

Absolutely there is always something to worry about. Definitely seeing the heartbeat is a big milestone, 12 weeks or so is a big milestone, as is 24 weeks - which is viability but preterm labor is always a worry. I agree with the others who say be cautiously optimistic and try to enjoy this - you will never get this time back so don't spend it all worrying and later regret that you didn't just sit back and enjoy this! Besides, if something were to go wrong - what is worrying going to do? Take care of yourself and try to keep your stress level down. There is no reason to think this shouldn't all go well! Congratulations on your pregnancy!!

[mechocoholic]

I am still trying to figure out when the worrying ends, just the other day i was in Labor & Delivery because i was worried that the baby isn't moving much....but everything was fine ....but inspite of the worry...pregnancy has been a huge blessing that i was waiting for...and i cannot wait for the next part... Congratulations to you on a gr8 beta....

[mimosa72]

Thanks so much, everyone - yes, I have wasted plenty of worry over the last year since I found all of this out, my high FSH. And these hormones do not help matters much.

It's so weird, I have told select friends, but not family! I hate to let them down - WAITING a bit more...ha!!!

What a surreal place!

[nubian67]

Congratulations on your pregnancy! As just about everyone said - the worrying never ends. I find comfort in each step (ovulating, getting pregnant, staying pregnant, etc...), but each day is a small step in a series of milestones. I also find comfort, as well as reason for concern, in reading everyone else's stories about cramps, bleeding, symptoms, lack of symptoms.... it's part of human nature, at least my human nature. Plus I obsess about this pregnancy compared to the last one. So, there is always something to worry about.

I had a scare with my betas last week (they only increased 100 over a 2 day period), and I assumed the pregnancy was over because I could not find anyone that had the same experience. You can't imagine how many hours I spent searcing online and going crazy - I almost lost a week of work! After seeing and hearing the hb yesterday we were overwhelmed with joy.

Take care of yourself, relax if you can, and enjoy the next 9 months! I know, much easier said than done.

[mimosa72]

Nurse,
I have that verse printed out and taped my my bathroom mirror!

[Persephone1881]

After my ectopic in January, I thought I would worry every day of this pregnancy. But after the first ultrasound where we saw that it was in the right place and then the 2nd where we saw it had a good strong heartbeat, I relaxed. It wasn't a conscious decision to stop worrying.. I just didn't feel the need anymore. Of course, every now and then I worry about something little, but never for very long. And really, it's more of a concern than a worry. We're all concerned about preterm labor or finding out after the birth that something is wrong that doesn't show up on ultrasounds or something like that, but for me it's not all-consuming.

Like the other ladies said, just take it one day at a time and you'll be just fine. Congrats!