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Old 05-09-2008, 10:40 AM
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"Being a Mother"

Loved this story and wanted to share!
Happy Mothers Day to All!

BEING A MOTHER...

After 17 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said, 'I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you.'

* * *

The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has been alone for 20 years, but the demands of my work and my two boys had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.

* * *

That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.

* * *

'What's wrong, aren't you well,' she asked?

* * *

My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news.

* * *

'I thought it would be pleasant to spend some time with you,' I responded. 'Just the two of us.' She thought about it for a moment, and then said, 'I would like that very much.'

* * *

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last birthday on November 19th.

* * *

She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel's. "I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed," she said, as she got into that new white van. "They can't wait to hear about our date."

* * *

We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print. Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. "It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small," she said. "Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor," I responded.

* * *

During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation - nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other's life. We talked so much that we missed the movie.

* * *

As we arrived at her house later, she said, 'I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you.' I agreed.

* * *

"How was your dinner date?" asked my wife when I got home. 'Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined,' I answered.

* * *

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn't have a chance to do anything for her.

* * *

Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined. An attached note said: 'I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, son.'

* * *

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: 'I LOVE YOU' and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till 'some other time.'

* * *

Somebody said it takes about six weeks to get back to normal after you've had a baby... somebody doesn't know that once you're a mother, 'normal' is history.

* * *

Somebody said you learn how to be a mother by instinct... somebody never took a three-year-old shopping.

* * *

Somebody said being a mother is boring... somebody never rode in a car driven by a teenager with a driver's permit.
* * *

Somebody said if you're a 'good' mother, your child will 'turn out good'... somebody thinks a child comes with directions and a guarantee.

* * *

Somebody said you don't need an education to be a mother... somebody never helped a fourth grader with his math.

* * *

Somebody said you can't love the second child as much as you love the first... somebody doesn't have two children.

* * *

Somebody said the hardest part of being a mother is labor and delivery... somebody never watched her 'baby' get on the bus for the first day of kindergarten... or on a plane headed for military 'boot camp.'

* * *

Somebody said a mother can stop worrying after her child gets married... somebody doesn't know that marriage adds a new son or daughter-in-law to a mother's heart strings.

* * *

Somebody said a mother's job is done when her last child leaves home... somebody never had grandchildren.

* * *

Somebody said your mother knows you love her, so you don't need to tell her... somebody isn't a mother.


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11/14-Estrace 2mg x2,14dys
11/29-baseline, us/labs- E2 level too high-cycle cancelled
11/30-RE requested re-check E2-back in range
11/30, 12/1, 12/2-Gonal-F 225 units
12/3- labs
12/5- us/labs-Gonal-F reduced-150 units, Menopur & Cetrotide
12/7, 12/9,12/10- us/labs
12/10-trigger 9:30pm
12/12-ER 8:15 am-8 retrieved, 6 fertilized
12/15-ET 10:30am- 2 Grade A, 8 cell embies
12/25-A Christmas Blessing!hpt x 2
12/27-Beta #1 114, we're BLESSED, thank you God!
12/31-Beta #2 710, prog 52
1/15-1st u/s-1 healthy heartbeat, 125bpm
1/17-1st OB appt
2/1-2nd u/s, 188bpm
2/15-3rd u/s, 167bpm, last RE visit
2/19-u/s during ER visit-162bpm
2/25-NT Scan
3/13-OB appt-confirmed Complete Placenta Previa
3/25-u/s,152bpm-It's a Boy!
7/16- 5lbs,9oz measured 35wks @33 & head down,167bpm
8/5-1cm, 50% eff
8/13-7lb.10oz 1cm, 70% eff, 37wks, measured @ 38wks,4dys
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Old 05-09-2008, 10:48 AM
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Thanks so much for sharing this. I have to admit I cry at the drop of a hat anymore, and cried the entire time reading this. Very touching
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11/08/07 1st IVF
12/11/07 Lap procedure (Removed Tubes)
2/8/2008 Trigger Shot 12 Good Follies
2/10/2008 Egg Retrieval 12 retrieved
(10 Mature) (7 fertilized)

2/15/2008 ET (2) Five Day Blasts with AH

4 six day frosties left from cycle 1 & 2

1st Beta 274!
2nd Beta 2/29th-688
3rd Beta 3/3-2,213
One Bean & beautiful heartbeat 102bpm
2nd ultrasound 3/19th heartbeat 143bpm
3rd ultrasound 3/27th measuring 8.5 weeks HB-165
1st OB appt- 8:00 4/4th
4/21st- OB appt heard heartbeat!
5/19th- 16 week OB u/s, baby a week ahead!
7/14- OB appt 2nd attempt at gender u/s

EDD- November 3rd, 2008
IT's A GIRL!!!! Mckenzie Renee
McKenzie born on Nov 1,2008 7lbs4oz

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Old 05-09-2008, 11:02 AM
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How very sweet! Thank you for sharing.
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Old 05-09-2008, 11:11 AM
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I enjoyed this. Thank you for posting it
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Jan 5 - #2 BETA 7033
Jan 17 - 1st U/S 6w2d - TRIPLETS, 3 heatbeats
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Old 05-09-2008, 11:15 AM
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It could be the hormones or the fact that soon enough I'll be a "real" mom (I'm the underappreciated full-time stepmother to 2 boys), but I cried through this whole thing too...thank you so much for sharing this with us.

Happy Mother's Day!!!!!
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3/9 & 10 ~ HPT ~ x2
3/10 ~ BETA #1 (13dpiui) ~ 119 P4 ~ 21.7
3/12 ~ BETA #2 (15dpiui)~ 341
3/28 ~ Our first look at the little one ~ 112 beats/min (6w3d)
4/21 ~ HEARD the hearbeat for the first time!!! 160 beats/minute (10w)
5/21 ~ u/s ~ hb/min 168 (14w1d)
6/19 ~ We're having a GIRL!!!
8/27 ~ 1st look at 3D image...I think she has Mommy's nose and toes!! HB: 139 b/m
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Old 05-09-2008, 05:18 PM
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Glad you ladies enjoyed it!

Danielle & Melissa- I'm not sure if it were the hormones or not either but I too cried the entire time!
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10/6-CD3 testing
10/12-sonohystergram

IVF Calander

10/31-AF
11/14-Estrace 2mg x2,14dys
11/29-baseline, us/labs- E2 level too high-cycle cancelled
11/30-RE requested re-check E2-back in range
11/30, 12/1, 12/2-Gonal-F 225 units
12/3- labs
12/5- us/labs-Gonal-F reduced-150 units, Menopur & Cetrotide
12/7, 12/9,12/10- us/labs
12/10-trigger 9:30pm
12/12-ER 8:15 am-8 retrieved, 6 fertilized
12/15-ET 10:30am- 2 Grade A, 8 cell embies
12/25-A Christmas Blessing!hpt x 2
12/27-Beta #1 114, we're BLESSED, thank you God!
12/31-Beta #2 710, prog 52
1/15-1st u/s-1 healthy heartbeat, 125bpm
1/17-1st OB appt
2/1-2nd u/s, 188bpm
2/15-3rd u/s, 167bpm, last RE visit
2/19-u/s during ER visit-162bpm
2/25-NT Scan
3/13-OB appt-confirmed Complete Placenta Previa
3/25-u/s,152bpm-It's a Boy!
7/16- 5lbs,9oz measured 35wks @33 & head down,167bpm
8/5-1cm, 50% eff
8/13-7lb.10oz 1cm, 70% eff, 37wks, measured @ 38wks,4dys

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