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I say just be honest. It's better to have open and honest communication then anything. Let her know that you have fears and apprehensions and let her take the wheel. It can't hurt to try and broach the topic. Let her know that you are pregnant, yes you may face bedrest but there is no way to know that just yet. There are some in their 30+ weeks that aren't on bedrest. Everyone is different.
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Well, it would be illegal for her not to hire you for that reason (but of course I understand why you are worried). But V, you're 19 weeks with twins - she must know already! I would tell her.
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Me (Kelly) - 30, PCOS Hubby - 30, MF TTC since 9/06 IUI #1-3 (7/07 - 9/07) - All BFN IVF #1-2 (11/07, 12/07) - 2 fresh 3-day embryos - BFN, 3 frozen blasts - BFN (chemical) IVF #3 (3/08) - NEW RE - 2 blasts Beta #1 (9dp5dt) - 349Beta #2 (13dp5dt) - 1338 First U/S: IT'S TWINS! ![]() ![]() Anatomy Scan: All is well! We have ONE LITTLE BOY and ONE LITTLE GIRL! ![]()
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yeah am already showing but she hasn't asked me yet. Not sure why??
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Me -30(Carrier of CF), PCOS DH - Perfect TTC - 6+ years 2002 - Clomid - No effect Injectibles Journey Ist Month- Overstimulation II Month - Understimulation Ist IVF 06/21- Carrying gene for CF Hospitalized for 7 days due to OHSS FET 1 - FET 2 11/20 - Start BCP 12/22 - Start Lupron 01/01 - Estradiol shots 01/13 - Progesterone shots 01/18 - FET BETA 1 - 01/26 - 146!!- BETA 2 - 01/28 - 247!! BETA 3 - 02/01 - 1247!! BETA 4 - 02/06 - 6669!! Thank you God.U/S 1 - 02/13 - It's TWINS!!! 2 hearbeats.U/S 2 - 02/19 -Both babies are measuring fine. U/S 3 - 02/29 - Saw 2 strong heartbeats . Blood Pocket almost invisible. Thank You God. Graduated to OBGYN U/S 4 - 03/14 - Babies doing fine and moving around. How amazing. First OBGYN Appt - 04/10 - Everything looks good. 04/17 - Everything looks good. 05/12 - Everything looks good. 05/16 - Anatomy Scan - One BOY and one GIRL!!
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Sometimes people are afraid to ask unless it's 100% clear. I'm always afraid of assuming someone's pregnant when really they've just put on a few pounds! Also she could be waiting for you to break it to her on your own terms. Employers are usually wary of bringing that sensitive stuff up out of the blue.
(I'm an employment attorney so I know way too much about it!)
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Me (Kelly) - 30, PCOS Hubby - 30, MF TTC since 9/06 IUI #1-3 (7/07 - 9/07) - All BFN IVF #1-2 (11/07, 12/07) - 2 fresh 3-day embryos - BFN, 3 frozen blasts - BFN (chemical) IVF #3 (3/08) - NEW RE - 2 blasts Beta #1 (9dp5dt) - 349Beta #2 (13dp5dt) - 1338 First U/S: IT'S TWINS! ![]() ![]() Anatomy Scan: All is well! We have ONE LITTLE BOY and ONE LITTLE GIRL! ![]()
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I would definitely tell her. The fact that she hasn't asked you and you are showing may indicate that she is going to respond in a professional way, first of all by not crossing the line and prying into your personal life and, second, that job offer may still be there for you!! Go for it and tell her!! The last thing you want to happen is to over do yourself and suddenly end up on bed rest. Most bosses are pretty cool when it comes to people having babies and maternity leave and if she isn't and discriminates against you ~ do you really want to work for her?
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yeah you are right. So since you are a guru in this subject tell me something...since I am in a contract to hire position and my contract ends sometime end of June or early July..can she not hire me because I am pregnant? Plus, she would be thinking that she will be out for 3 months as soon as I hire her so its better not to hire her. Isn't that illegal though?
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Me -30(Carrier of CF), PCOS DH - Perfect TTC - 6+ years 2002 - Clomid - No effect Injectibles Journey Ist Month- Overstimulation II Month - Understimulation Ist IVF 06/21- Carrying gene for CF Hospitalized for 7 days due to OHSS FET 1 - FET 2 11/20 - Start BCP 12/22 - Start Lupron 01/01 - Estradiol shots 01/13 - Progesterone shots 01/18 - FET BETA 1 - 01/26 - 146!!- BETA 2 - 01/28 - 247!! BETA 3 - 02/01 - 1247!! BETA 4 - 02/06 - 6669!! Thank you God.U/S 1 - 02/13 - It's TWINS!!! 2 hearbeats.U/S 2 - 02/19 -Both babies are measuring fine. U/S 3 - 02/29 - Saw 2 strong heartbeats . Blood Pocket almost invisible. Thank You God. Graduated to OBGYN U/S 4 - 03/14 - Babies doing fine and moving around. How amazing. First OBGYN Appt - 04/10 - Everything looks good. 04/17 - Everything looks good. 05/12 - Everything looks good. 05/16 - Anatomy Scan - One BOY and one GIRL!!
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Technically, it would be illegal for her not to hire you for that reason. But proving someone's true motivations for a discretionary decision is always another story altogether.
That being said, I imagine she's on the up and up and wouldn't decide not to hire you for that reason. If anything she would probably want to be cautious.
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Me (Kelly) - 30, PCOS Hubby - 30, MF TTC since 9/06 IUI #1-3 (7/07 - 9/07) - All BFN IVF #1-2 (11/07, 12/07) - 2 fresh 3-day embryos - BFN, 3 frozen blasts - BFN (chemical) IVF #3 (3/08) - NEW RE - 2 blasts Beta #1 (9dp5dt) - 349Beta #2 (13dp5dt) - 1338 First U/S: IT'S TWINS! ![]() ![]() Anatomy Scan: All is well! We have ONE LITTLE BOY and ONE LITTLE GIRL! ![]()
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i agree with Kelly, however, the biggest issue is that even if she does hire you, you would not qualify for FMLA as you would not meet the eligibility criteria, so she could hire you and the company is not obligated to hold your job while you are out.
29CFR825.825.110 - Which employees are ``eligible'' to take leave under FMLA?
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Christine Me-35 DH-33 06/03 - TTC - Natural & IUI - all BFN 04/2007 - IVF (25 eggs, 20 embries) ET 2(8)celled embies, 18 frozen 05/01/07 - 05/18/07 - TWINS 08/24/07 - Ethan Jon 20w5d ![]() 08/25/07 - Andrew Jude 20w6d ![]() 11/15/07 - FET#1, 2 embies, 16 frozen 11/27/07 - Beta 12/16/07 - the big "O" with Clomid 12/31/07 - Beta 64 (15dpo)01/02/08 - Beta 124 (17dpo)01/10 - Beta 2742(25dpo)01/17 - U/S #1 TWO HB 02/06 - U/S #3 - lost baby A , baby B 173bpm03/03 - NT Scan - Perfect 08/12 - I weight 6lbs! 08/21 - Aedyn Satori born 6lbs8oz, 18inches! http://charmsjourney.blogspot.com/ http://aedynsatori.blogspot.com/ |
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I guess today I am going to tell her. I hope I still have the job...if not I would love my time off with my babies.
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Me -30(Carrier of CF), PCOS DH - Perfect TTC - 6+ years 2002 - Clomid - No effect Injectibles Journey Ist Month- Overstimulation II Month - Understimulation Ist IVF 06/21- Carrying gene for CF Hospitalized for 7 days due to OHSS FET 1 - FET 2 11/20 - Start BCP 12/22 - Start Lupron 01/01 - Estradiol shots 01/13 - Progesterone shots 01/18 - FET BETA 1 - 01/26 - 146!!- BETA 2 - 01/28 - 247!! BETA 3 - 02/01 - 1247!! BETA 4 - 02/06 - 6669!! Thank you God.U/S 1 - 02/13 - It's TWINS!!! 2 hearbeats.U/S 2 - 02/19 -Both babies are measuring fine. U/S 3 - 02/29 - Saw 2 strong heartbeats . Blood Pocket almost invisible. Thank You God. Graduated to OBGYN U/S 4 - 03/14 - Babies doing fine and moving around. How amazing. First OBGYN Appt - 04/10 - Everything looks good. 04/17 - Everything looks good. 05/12 - Everything looks good. 05/16 - Anatomy Scan - One BOY and one GIRL!!
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Good luck to you Varunika. I am sure it will be fine.
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Connie Me: 29 - no issues DH: 40 - vasectomy; 2 biological children from previous marriage 1st IVF w/ ICSI: 11/1 ER date 11/1 11 eggs retrieved 11/2 10 mature eggs, 10 eggs fertilized 11/4 ET - 2 embies transferred/no embies to freeze 11/15 1st beta - 157!!! 11/17 2nd beta - 401 - It's still a 12/4 8 AM - 1st U/S !!! - saw one sac: HB 126 12/17 9 AM - 1st OB appointment - 2nd u/s 1/14/08 - 2nd OB appointment - got another u/s 2/12/08 - 3rd OB appointment 3/5/08 - 8 AM - IT'S A BOY 3/12/08 - high risk OB u/s to check Choroid Plexus Cysts, the cyst is dissolving 3/26/08 - 4th OB appointment at 22w6d - all is well, measured 24 weeks 4/19/08 - 1st 3D u/s 4/29/08 - 5th OB appointment at 27w5d 5/15/08 - 2nd 3D u/s 5/27/08 - 6th OB appointment at 31w5d EDD: 24 July 2008 Maximilian Atlee born on 18 June 2008 at 2:30 PM ![]() ![]() ![]() |
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Finally I told my boss..Wohoooooooo. She was okay with it. Not sure why I was so worried?? I guess it was the first time..huh??
Well, she was excited for me and congratulated me. I even told her that its twins. Her only concern was will I work after I have the babies and I said offcourse. She was happy with the decision. She also mentioned that my contract is getting over in first week of June and I will get an employee hire packet next week sometime. I am so excited. So I guess now its official at work. My coworkers already knew though.
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Me -30(Carrier of CF), PCOS DH - Perfect TTC - 6+ years 2002 - Clomid - No effect Injectibles Journey Ist Month- Overstimulation II Month - Understimulation Ist IVF 06/21- Carrying gene for CF Hospitalized for 7 days due to OHSS FET 1 - FET 2 11/20 - Start BCP 12/22 - Start Lupron 01/01 - Estradiol shots 01/13 - Progesterone shots 01/18 - FET BETA 1 - 01/26 - 146!!- BETA 2 - 01/28 - 247!! BETA 3 - 02/01 - 1247!! BETA 4 - 02/06 - 6669!! Thank you God.U/S 1 - 02/13 - It's TWINS!!! 2 hearbeats.U/S 2 - 02/19 -Both babies are measuring fine. U/S 3 - 02/29 - Saw 2 strong heartbeats . Blood Pocket almost invisible. Thank You God. Graduated to OBGYN U/S 4 - 03/14 - Babies doing fine and moving around. How amazing. First OBGYN Appt - 04/10 - Everything looks good. 04/17 - Everything looks good. 05/12 - Everything looks good. 05/16 - Anatomy Scan - One BOY and one GIRL!!
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I am so happy it all worked out!!! You must be so relieved!!!!
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ME (Claudia): 35 PCOS, Tubes ???? DP: 38 anonymous sperm donor TTC x 1 yr 10/06 clomid/IUI #1 BFP 11/06 Ectopic - Methotrexate 2/07 clomid/IUI #2 BFN 3/07 clomid/IUI #3 BFP 4/07 Ectopic- Methotrexate IVF #1 1/8/08 Started stims trigger 1/17 ER 1/19 - 18 eggs retrieved - 16 mature, 13 fertilized ET 1/24 5d SET - 8 frosties (7 frozen on day 5 and 1 caught up on day 6! yay!) Beta 2/1 102! BFP!!!! Beta #2 2/3 246 2/6 Progesterone 195.7 off prometrium! (no wonder I am so cuckoo!) US 2/22 1 perfect little pea in it's pod. hb 138 bpm! 5/16 It's a Girl!!!! Natasha Frances
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Congrats!!!!
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Christine Me-35 DH-33 06/03 - TTC - Natural & IUI - all BFN 04/2007 - IVF (25 eggs, 20 embries) ET 2(8)celled embies, 18 frozen 05/01/07 - 05/18/07 - TWINS 08/24/07 - Ethan Jon 20w5d ![]() 08/25/07 - Andrew Jude 20w6d ![]() 11/15/07 - FET#1, 2 embies, 16 frozen 11/27/07 - Beta 12/16/07 - the big "O" with Clomid 12/31/07 - Beta 64 (15dpo)01/02/08 - Beta 124 (17dpo)01/10 - Beta 2742(25dpo)01/17 - U/S #1 TWO HB 02/06 - U/S #3 - lost baby A , baby B 173bpm03/03 - NT Scan - Perfect 08/12 - I weight 6lbs! 08/21 - Aedyn Satori born 6lbs8oz, 18inches! http://charmsjourney.blogspot.com/ http://aedynsatori.blogspot.com/ |
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Ok ladies tell me something..if I take insurance from my new company will they cover my pregnancy and delivery expenses or it is a pre-existing condition for them??
I had Kaiser from my previous job which ended in dec and then I bought it on my own for the last couple of months since my RE was in kaiser. My new company is going to give me Kaiser. Since I have no loss is coverage it should not be an pre-existing condition correct?? or I am wrong?
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Me -30(Carrier of CF), PCOS DH - Perfect TTC - 6+ years 2002 - Clomid - No effect Injectibles Journey Ist Month- Overstimulation II Month - Understimulation Ist IVF 06/21- Carrying gene for CF Hospitalized for 7 days due to OHSS FET 1 - FET 2 11/20 - Start BCP 12/22 - Start Lupron 01/01 - Estradiol shots 01/13 - Progesterone shots 01/18 - FET BETA 1 - 01/26 - 146!!- BETA 2 - 01/28 - 247!! BETA 3 - 02/01 - 1247!! BETA 4 - 02/06 - 6669!! Thank you God.U/S 1 - 02/13 - It's TWINS!!! 2 hearbeats.U/S 2 - 02/19 -Both babies are measuring fine. U/S 3 - 02/29 - Saw 2 strong heartbeats . Blood Pocket almost invisible. Thank You God. Graduated to OBGYN U/S 4 - 03/14 - Babies doing fine and moving around. How amazing. First OBGYN Appt - 04/10 - Everything looks good. 04/17 - Everything looks good. 05/12 - Everything looks good. 05/16 - Anatomy Scan - One BOY and one GIRL!!
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