Hi everyone- I just found out this past Wednesday that I am infertile. I have fibroids throughout my uterus, an ovarian cyst (related to fertility drugs) and endometriosis. My doctor wants to do a myomectomy to clean out everything in my uterus. Then he will reconstruct my uterus (the fibroids are throwing it out of shape). After the surgery he says that there may be a slight chance that I can get pregnant.

I am afraid that my fibroids are so severe that I will have to a hysterectomy. I can feel them when I just touch the area around my belly button. My doctor says that the fibroids are pushing my uterus up and out of shape.

(As I write this now I am in pain due to my ovarian cyst. )

My husband and I have been crying on and off since Wednesday. I feel that there isn't any hope for us to have a baby. We have tried for almost two years now.

I am tired of trying.... My family thinks I should get a second opinion about the surgery. I just want the whole thing over with.
I do not want to get my hopes up with the possibility of another doctor telling me that I can get pregnant and doing the whole fertility process over again. I just want the surgery and after I have recoup look into adoption.

Has anyone been through a similar experience????

I have PCOS (Polysystic Ovarian Syndrome). I know what it is like to go through infertility and want it to be over with. It took the doctors two years just to figure out I wasn't ovulating. I wasn't diagnosed with PCOS for another two years. I did so many different infertilty treatments that I thought I would go insane. I was so hormonal and moody and I wasn't very nice to be around at times. I finally decide enough was enough and we looked into adoption. I have put everything in the Lord's hands. When he feels we are ready to have a baby we will. We are approved for adoption and now just waiting for a birth mother to pick us. We are not preventing pregnancy but we are not pursuing infertility treatments right now either. I am on a drug called metformin to try and help me ovulate but we are not doing any other aggresive treatments. This is a very hard time. You can only take so much of infertility before it really affects you. Maybe just putting it off for now and thinking about something else will help. My life is so much better now that I am not going to the doctor and taking tons of pills. Infertility is a very emotional time. If you would like to talk to me more or just want to vent please feel free to email me at ldsmilitarywife@yahoo.com
Hang in there. Things will work out. Good luck with your decision.

Trosen

Although I have not been told I will never get pg. I have been denied coverage for the treatment that would make my changes much better. I had already gone through treatments for over 6 months when this issue was discovered and it took them another 3 months to tell me they would not cover the major tests to determine exactly what and the treatment. I took some down time before making any decisions and began researching adoption. At the time dh wasn't not in favor of it(the man thing) so it gave me time to sort through how I really felt about it. When all was said and done I realized it wasn't how I was blessed with my child that mattered. What mattered was that in some what I be blessed with the arrival of my child. Well 3 weeks ago we were blessed by being chosen to adopt 2 brothers ages 4 and 7. We had decided we wanted to adopt through the state(actually another state) because we knew that we could use our life experiences to help the children and we did not need to have an infant. More so though we knew we had a lot of unconditional love to give(this too was from our life experiences) so we felt this option was best for us. You have many options, more treatments, Surrogate, domestic adoption, international adoption and state adoption. Take your time to make your decisions and really research them so you know which is right. Grieving is part of the process too so acknowledge that and let it happen. Also I know after you have been dealing with infertility you want things to happen quickly but take your time to make sure you are ready to make a choice. I wish you the very best and feel free to contact me if you need to talk.

trosen, regardless of whether you plan to continue trying to get pregnant or whether you decide to adopt, I hope you will still consider some of the various surgical options available to relieve your discomfort. Whatever you decide, you deserve to be able to enjoy your life to the fullest, and nobody can do that while dealing with chronic physical pain. Best wishes, ~Sharon

Trosen,

There was a news report on today (local Los Angeles station) that talked about a new procedure that is being done to greatly reduce the size of fibroids, without a hysterectomy, by cutting off the flow of blood to the fibroids. They indicated that it was done by a very small incision in the abdomen. I do not recall the name of the procedure, but it is being done by a doctor in my area at UCLA Medical Center. I remember that it mentioned the procedure can be found on the web by searching on fibroids. My heart goes out to you. I dealt with infertility issues for many years.

Please take care of your own health. You have been through a lot lately and I know it can all seem overwhelming but take it one step at a time. Your own health and then the child you want.
I have recently come to terms with my own infertility and what helped me through it was understanding that my life does not have to be a prescribed plan. My life is unique and surprising and full of possibilty. Part of that possibility is the gift of adopting a child. My family may not be like my neighbors but it is mine, unique and full of love. Once you accept the your life's potential to be great, it will be. You have my support.