Hi,

My brief history of 10 years of infertility: (with ex-husband) 2 ICSIs, 2 ICSIs with Assisted Hatching (5-4-5-5 embrios were put back - no pregnancy). 4 donor inseminations - last one worked, but I lost it 3 weeks after the IUI. (With current husband): miraculous pregnancy after trying just for 4 months naturally- after 3 months they found out that I had a blighted ovum - D&C. Tests - tests- tests - everything normal. A year after the D&C we saw a doctor who had helped my friend to get pregnant with clomid. We did 4 clomid cycles, the last three with an IUI. All my cycles looked great, I ovulated when I needed, etc. No pregnancy. In April we decided on a Laparoscopy and Hysteroscopy. Findings: one blocked tube, endometriosis, adhesions, and fibroids. Most were corrected. One more trial with IVF - 6 perfect embrios, 2 placed back, no pregnancy.
I am VERY happy to say that we have started adortion, and that I feel so much better emotionally. No more morning temperature taking, no more pills or injections, etc., but YES hot tub, sex, etc. at any time. What is important to me is to become a mom, not to give birth. The wait and the process is not easy, but when you are in it, you learn so much about yourself, your spouse, and parenting. Starting adoption was one of the best choices I have made.
Make sure that you try enough treatments before trying something else. I feel I have done everything I could to have a biological child, but my destiny is to love and raise one who would not get that chance otherwise.

Good luck to you.
Giza

I too had a very hard time on clomid. The mood swings were very severe and simply unbearable. When I "gave up" on trying to get pregnant, it was the best decision of my life. I was finally able to live again without obsessing about getting pregnant. I embraced the idea of adoption, and for once, could see a light at the end the tunnel.

I can honestly say that I am such a better person and mother for the experiences I have been through, and would not have wanted my daughter to have come to us any way other than how she did. DD was born in June and we brought her home at two days old. Although I may never experince the joys of birthing my child, her adoption has been the most joyous and fulfilling experince of my life.

This is a great thread!

I cannot carry, and therefore have now gone thru 2 gestational surogates to later find out that i may have troube producing eggs myself (wish i had known this in the beginning after 2 years of this!)

so, i am to start the clomid challenge test as soon as i am done taking provera, and then we will know definitively what road we shall take.

i am out of work for this month due to feet surgery and so i am taking advantage of all this time and learning more and more about adoption, and feel like this may be it!

i go for an informational class this thurs (without dh, he is not ready yet, which is ok).

andrea!

Hi , I have POF (premature ovarian failure). They tried me on pretty much every fertility drug possible including clomid which I might add is not the way to go! My side affects were ruining my life and my partners.
I spent many years letting doctors poke and prod and fill me with pills. Then they told me I would have to have a complete hysterectomy at the ripe age of 27. I think I cried for about 6 months straight. I had finally reached bottom. Until I finally realized that I was a good person and had too much love to give to throw it all away. I decided I would adopt.
I see so many children that are neglected, who need someone. I wanted to put my arms around them and tell them i love them. So my ( very understanding - father of 2 from a previous marriage) husband and I decided to start the adoption process. Trust me when I tell you to start soon. It takes a while.....and every day seems so long when u are waiting. The child may not be your own blood.....but your heart will not know.

*LOVE OTHERS AS THEY WILL LOVE YOU*

Hi,
I am so glad a found this site. All of the posts have been very helpful. We have one biological 3 year old. I used the temp. check and she was conceived without problem. We have been trying for a year now and nothing. I was on chlomid for four cycles because I was not ovulating. The first two I ovulated. The last two I did not. My periods are about 20 days apart. I went in to see the doctor last week to discuss the next step. He did a vaginal ultrasound and found what he described as a tumor in my left ovary. Ok that word "tumor" is very scary. He said our first course of action is to attempt to shrink it. He thinks it is caused by hormones (chlomid ?). I have until 1/22 to see if it shrinks. If it doesn't I guess he has to find out what kind of tumor it is. My mother and 3 of her sisters had cysts and tumors. They all had hyst. My mother was my age. I am only 28.

I noticed in an earlier post by lucyjoy a description of PCOS. I have 7 of those symptoms. Has anyone else had this problem? I am tired of pills. I hate taking pills.

We are already foster parents with our local family services. (no current placements) We are doing the homestudy for adoption. We were already planning to adopt. Maybe this is the way we are suppose to parent. I am so thankful for the opportunity to be pregnant and give birth to our daughter. I will be just as thankful to be pregnant in my heart for an adopted child.

I don't want to do chlomid anymore. I don't think my husband will allow me to anyway. This tumor scare is making him get more gray hair.

Hi. I remember those day`s full of hope, anxious for it to work. Having to go to the doctor`s office w/ a room full of pregnant women. (oohhh!) I had two laparscope`s done. The doc. would say,"well, your right tube is pretty bad w/ scar tissue, and the other, just a bit,... but.. if you have surgery and clean all that out, you have a yr. to try for a baby. So, we went through, temp. charts(and that became a problem after awhile.sexually), ovalation kits,artificial semination,put on clomid for 6 month`s. (couldn`t afford it) Doc. had already about sucked us out of alot of money, with "hope", and the last straw was when I had major surgery, where they cut you, like a woman that get`s a c section. By then, 8 yrs. had past.. on hope. We should have adopted 8 yrs. ago!!!!!! lol Good luck!!!

[n_danielle]

My OBGYN put me on clomid after trying for two years to get pregnant. I didn't have periods but maybe once a year. Birth control didn't regulate them either. I had to take something force start a period, maybe progesterone? and then started clomid. My cycles with clomid ran about 35days. I charted my BBT as well. After six months on clomid my doc wrote me a new script for an increased dosage. Didn't need it because we found out we were pregnant about a week later. I started having regular periods about 10months after my first pregnancy and whoops, got pregnant again. After my second I again started having periods after 10months and have had them regularly for the last year. It's like my body finally kicked into gear. I was on birth control for about six months and my cycles were 28days. I just recently went off to see what my body comes up with as "normal". My first cycly off was 30 days. I believe the two cycles I had before b/c were 30-33 days.