Hello everyone, My name is Robin. I am 39 and hubby is 41... we have beentold for years that we would never get preg, until last year I went to a RE to get a second opinion for hysterectomy. Anyway he had convinced me that all my lab work and all was fine. That my scar tissue did constrict my only tube but that We should do invitro. Needless to say, I should have listened to my husband and just started with Adoption because we just wasted 8000........ now we have to pay that off before we can go forward with Adoption. So for now, we have decided to get set up with Foster care.
I have been preg 3 times. all on the first time trying... only to MC the first two and then the last one was a tubule that ruptured since I had some incompitent military docs taking care of me at the time. I was 3 months preg and they informed me that If I had not came back that day I would have been dead in my sleep. Nice thing to tell me when I was in there for 1 1/2 months telling them something was wrong and I was in pain. They just kept sending me home. So along with them taking my tube, the infection set in and gave me tons of scar tissue ... that is why they say I am not getting preg. All lab and test came back normal.
My IVF the got out 5 great eggs, all 5 fertilized and they put 4 back and none took,... I think God has something else in store that he did not let this work.
I am just looking at the right direction that God has planned me to make my family bigger
I have a daughter who is 8 and she is the greatest kid... We homeschool,. Hubby is retired military... and live in Florida. (NW)
I would like any info on Foster care, Adoption etc that you can give to me. We dont have the money that I see some of the people having to pay for some of the Adoptions I have read about.
We would rather have a child that is 3 or under So not sure the right avenue to go. Someone told me to search for Homes for Unwed mothers. So that is what I will start on Monday.
Thanks for listening and looking forward to getting to know you guys.
SORRY FOR ANY TYPEO's
Robin

I had a lot of miscarriages before pursuing adoption. It was hard, but I was relieved when I moved on to adoption, I felt like there would be a baby, where my body was just not cooperating. Anyway, we did adopt awhile ago- 13 years. But our adoption was not all that expensive. Agency fee was $2500 and bmom's medical was a little over $3000. We went through a non-profit agency and were very happy with them. I would look for a non-profit, I would think their fees are less. Maybe I am all wet, maybe they all say non-profit now.

Thanks a lot. I have spoken with this guy I work with that is a preacher at a church. He is telling me to go to home for unwed mothers. Im hoping that will bring something up. The one state agency I called said 13,000... OH MY GOSH.. that is so high. Like some of the foreign adoptions I have been reading about over 20,000 for a baby. IT is sad that that know how much we all want babies that they hold that over our head with prices.
Thanks again for your response..
ROBIN

Robin
I know exactly what you mean on so many levels. My doctors were at first incompetent until I found the right ones. It seems so crazy that they are supposed to be so smart and they sometimes know less than I do about my condition. I had to go in Monday and ask for a perscription that I found out I need from some women on another forum. If I hadn't asked, she wouldn't have put me on it. She said, "oh I guess that would be a good idea." I'm going,"du!!!!"
DH and me are also thinking about adoption and it is unbeliveable. I will have to waite to get my fertility bills paid off as well. Although mine aren't as bad a yours. But even just 1000 might as well be a million.
But everything will be okay. God will get us through whatever comes our way and really he wants for us what we want. Sometimes he just puts a few hudderals in our way to teach us patients, ect. I hope you get what you want. Keep us posted. God Bless
Beth,22,uu,pcos,ic

It really helps to talk to other women who know what we feel. Life can be unfair at times but we really need to think about why things happen. Lord only knows that things as much as we hate it, happen for a reason.
Robin

Since you are open to foster care and a child under 3, have you given much thought of adopting through your state? We adopted our son through our state foster care system (he was not our foster child--we did not foster to adopt we were and adoptive placement). There are wonderful children waiting for homes and many of them are perfectly healthy. In most states it is totally free to adopt plus you can get an adoption subsidy payment and medical insurance for your child until they are 18 regardless of your income. We got our son at 13 mo. and are waiting for our second child now. PM me with any questions.

Melissa

Have you checked out foster/adopt programs in your county? I live in MN - where we are they are actually searching for families who would be willing to foster/adopt newborns. I know of one woman who has adopted 4 children that way. She's never waited more than 8 months once she said she was open to a placement, and they've adopted all the children that have been placed with them.

Call your county social services agency - you might find out this is easier than you think.