My DH and I have been trying to conceive for about 3 years. I was just recently diagnosed with PCOS and just finished my 3rd month of Clomid and I am sick and tired of being sick and tired. The drug is causing extreme ovulatory pain and terrible mood swings that just seem to go from bad to worse, then at the end of the month, when AF comes, we are crushed emotionally.

DH and I have decided to pursure adoption and have even found 2 sibling girls we would love to adopt, but are just in the beginning stages of home study, etc.

I have just about decided that ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. I am drained emotionally and slipping spiritually. Please send me your encouragement and prayers.

This is the best quote I've read so far....."It will all be okay in the end. If it is not okay, it is not the end."

Thanks,
Grace in OK

I too suffered from infertility and after coupling clomid and AI we conceived 3 times in one year - 2 miscarriages and 1 ectopic pregnancy. I said, "ENOUGH OF THIS!" We adopted our son Stephen at birth in February 2002 and are filling out the paperwork for our second adoption! Stephen is the joy of our lives - very smart and funny! My husband was holding him and looking at him a few weeks after his birth and started to cry! When I asked what was wrong, he said "If any of our pregnancies had been successful, we would have never sought him out! And I can't imagine loving a child any more than I love him right now!" Things do happen for a reason and we consider ourselves truly blessed! Good luck to you and know there are others out there that can relate to your pain and frustration and are willing to lend an ear!

Mroot,

Thank you for your support. Today has been really rough and I appreciate all the support I can get. Congrats on Stephen and good luck with #2.

Grace

I have and going through a lot of test and med problems, when I get down I think of a friend that at the age of 21 the Dr's gave her a histharectamy and that was that. She tried to adopt but she is s/p CA and single. She was denied. I still have a chance. You too still have a chance. God is waiting for the right angle to come forward. God has the plans we have to remember to read the plans not write them.

All my love and support to you Grace. So many of us here can relate to your emotional roller coaster. I've been crushed by 3 miscarriages; the last one was after an IUI. Yet I am still labeled "unexplained infertility". We are here for you to vent and cry to

One thing I might want to caution you if you are this early in the stage of adoption is to limit your time browsing on the photolisting web sites. You end up getting attached and fall in love with a child, and even find yourself going back to the web page over and over. As much obsession as there is with TTC, it can be twice as obsessive with adoption. At least IMO.

Good luck to you!

[bastet1961]

Don't know if this will help...My husband and I tried to concieve for many years as well. He had wanted us to adopt a long time ago...Well we started the paperwork in June 2003 and now we are getting to travel to a foreign country to meet our waiting child in April2005. The homestudy is a total invasion of privacy...but consider it your "specail" pregnancy anyways that is how I viewed it. It is all for good reasons that they cooect all this information on you and just about everything else. Good luck, there is a child out there waiting for you...Lisa