[arucker]

tryingforone, usually if you don't get PG after a year you normally would start all of the testing to see if there is a problem. Then RE usually want you to do a clomid cycle naturally, then if that doesn't work then clomid w/ IUI, then shots w/IUI then IVF. That's pretty standard. Everyone is different though. They might find a problem that may be treated differently. My regret is doing so many IUI's and trying other methods for too long. I'm now going to be 36, never been PG and still don't know why. If you decide you want children, I personally wouldn't waste any time because every year counts and egg quanities deplete ( like mine did ) So good luck to you.

[fuzzykitten]

TryingForOne,

I encourage you to look into what your health insurance covers. Call the insurance company (or your insurance coordinator at your work place), double check, triple check, to maximize what you can get your insurance to pay. And remember that they're hoops to jump through, with the consults, the ultrasounds, the medications, the procedures. Just go in prepared. If your insurance covers some medication, the clomid and femera is cheaper (small amounts of copay), whereas the IVF injections are EXPENSIVE, and require preauthorization, so get the clinic to help you push through the paperwork. Don't pay a cent out until insurance is sorted out.

Don't trust just one source when they tell you what is covered. The insurance coordinators at your doctor's office (if they have one) may not know the answer. So, you'll have to put in a lot of effort. Sorry, I really don't mean to scare you, I am just giving you advice that I wish somebody could've given me. And this is probably more information than you wanted...

There're also clinics that offer refund plans (I'd use them myself except I found out too late about them).

But please don't feel discouraged. These are all conquerable problems.

And if you and your DH decide to adopt, that's great too. Infertility is not easy, and the choicest you make will be difficult. But remember that whatever choice you make, it's right choice. But do move quickly.

[NightOwl]

Originally Posted by TryingForOne

I wonder how long is "normal" for 2 relatively healthy (however mentally [job] stressed) 28 year old adults to conceive.

It has been a year and nothing, so we are starting to wonder...

Given your age, if you have been actively trying to conceive for over a year, then it is time to see the doctor for some preliminary testing. Don't wait - - time has a way of slipping away and then other issues come into play. BTDT!

Best wishes!

[kristyr41982]

We already have our bio son. We tried for 1 year and decided to move on to adoption. $50,000 later.

[Luvadoptedkids]

We found out we could not have children biologically together after 2 years of marriage and it was another two of treatments before we adopted Bailey our first daughter. Waited another 6 years after that for the Lord to bring us Addison and another 9 years for Him to bring us Levi. It's been almost 8 years of waiting now for the Lord to open the doors for embryo adoption and bring us our embryo babies. We've always said that the Lord has given us a ministry of waiting. )

[anilorak13ska]

We started ttc 6 mos after getting off BC. 16 mos later, we did our fert testing. As soon as we got our first SA results (no swimmers), I mentally checked out and started researching adoption. I had no intention of doing ivf. Meanwhile, dh continued with several other apts to try to figure out what the prob was.

We have been pursuing independent adoption for 15 months now, with 2 failed matches. We've been licensed foster parents for 2 months (no placements yet), and we're trying to get licensed with our adjacent county as well.

I thought I had made my peace with the whole "no for me" business, but then I thought I had implantation bleeding, and started to wonder if that's why we hadn't been successful in adopting yet.

As we wait for our RE apt next Monday, I finally read dh's medical records and found out that my initial reaction was correct. It would appear that our only chance of a bio baby is ivf.

I don't want to leave any stone unturned, so I'm researching it. Not comfortable with the financial risk, the invasiveness.

If we don't hear anything on the foster care route by the end of this year, we're signing with an agency for a domestic infant adoption (hoping for a Hisp or multiracial booboo).

I'm so glad to hear stories of those of you who have adopted and then went back to consider fert. I'm also considering embryo adoption and not sure where we'll get our baby, but I know God is calling me to be a mother and dh to be a father, we're just not sure how and when!

[kbc101505]

My husband and I have been married for almost (10/15/05) four years and have been trying to conceive for two and a half of those years. After one year of trying with no success we went to an RE who ran tests and determined that we were both perfectly fine and there is no reason we have not been able to conceive. After three rounds of IUI we took a break and went for a second opinion. He found a few "small" issues with both my husband and I but said they were not significant enough to prevent conception. After one round of a LOT of meds and an IUI we decided to stop and pursue what we have been talking about for well over a year...domestic infant adoption.

[goldkat]

DH and I married for 14 yrs. TTC for the last 6-8, on and off. I was diagnosed with PCOS and he's got low count/motility. He had varocele surgery to correct count issues, didn't work. He contracted sepsis after the surgery and spent 1 week in the hospital. My second IVF was hyperstimmed and spent a week in the hospital. After 2 failed frozen cycles from that 2nd IVF, we're done. D.O.N.E. I've got permenant numb spots on my hips and dh refuses to stick me again with a needle. Oh yea, and our insurance coverage cap of 20K was reached so the clinic wants 6,000 up front before another cycle. We SO don't have 6K to drop on another risky IVF.

We're very interested in adoption at this point, however I'm scared that won't happen either. I am very hesitant about adopting an older child, so told dh it has to be an infant. I need the 'baby' experience, even if I can't be pregnant. This means domestic infant adoption, or international adoption of as young an infant as possible. These options are expensive. If we don't have 6K to spend on IVF, we sure as heck don't have 20K to hand over to an agency for an infant. I'm absolutely against foster care. Way too many horror stories of friends and family. And I know I get attached easily. Foster care would be a disaster waiting to happen.

I'm beginning to believe the only way we'll be parents is to win the lottery or inherit a ton of cash from family. It's sad to think that way, but true. And I don't want a huge family, bio or adopted. One baby would be enough. Is there any hope for us? Advise would be appreciated.

Sue