[Schell1978]

Each individual experiences infertility in her or his own unique and valid way. While no one can predict one person's reaction to a diagnosis or treatment recommendation, many have similar reactions to this life-changing event.
Emotional/psychological experiences may include:

• feelings of loss of control are common and sometimes uncomfortable
• the emotional roller coaster of hope and despair, either with each treatment or on a monthly basis
• feelings of failure and low self-esteem are normal as are feeling of guilt, blame, shame and embarrassment
• the process erodes and consumes time and energy
• financial issues - loss of other dreams in exchange for treatment
• changes within your relationship - pull together or apart - infertility brings most couples closer together but changes in intimacy are often associated with treatment regimens
• impact on employment and performance at work
• feelings of injustice are reality based

Suggestions for coping more effectively:

• begin/continue treatment with an open mind and a positive attitude - never say never!
• realize that you must live and work in the fertile world, and manage your relationships with family members and friends
• develop a stress management program - simplify!
• Confide in select friends and family members
• periodically reexamine your options
• consider joining a support group
• grieve your losses - there are many for some people engage in individual or couples therapy if your infertility is secondary, try to renew your relationship with your child
• be gentle with yourself avoid uncomfortable social situations - holidays, baby showers, certain family gatherings be "out of town" buy gift certificates and mail them with your negative rsvp

It is important to maintain the perspective that treatment is a means to an end, and to realize that you are very likely to become a parent someday soon.
Infertility is like a broken bone. When it heals, it will be stronger than ever, but on rainy days, it hurts…….